Differences In Dominant Women

People by nature will always react to a situation differently. Also, some of us are lifestyles while others are professionals. There is a huge difference between how the two will behave and expect others to behave. I may not a sadist I do not enjoy inflicting harm on people that I care for. I could easily hurt someone that I have little to no feelings for. I want a submissive that craves to be my good boy/girl I want them to desire more than anything to please me in every way. I do not want to be a drill Sargent I expect my submissive to learn my subtle cues and react to them and even before them. While I enjoy cbt (cock and ball tease/torture) it is not because I want to cause pain I want my submissive to have an intense orgasm that I have complete control over. I do enjoy humiliation if the other person is into it. I have no desire to cause someone mental harm just to gain a few minutes of pleasure from it. Spanking for me is part of a huge picture of submissive/dominant engagement. I am not into just spanking to spank. I greatly enjoy spanking a bottom and then gently touching it to make it feel very nice. There are women out there who would never have sex with a submissive and that is their thing. For me I enjoy using my submissives cock if it is something that will bring me pleasure. I like a well built relationship that extends beyond the bedroom and control that comes with subtle-ness. A raised eyebrow sends my submissive scampering to me. A touch on the arm stops them right where they are. Dedicating their every free moment to giving me what I strongly desire. I want my submissives working hard to fulfill their own dreams though. I get bored with people that do not have a driving force. To me submissives are equal and they choose to make their Mistress/Master as happy as they can. They want to be there. They are not forced to do anything pleasing eagerly brings them the most pleasure. Mistress/Masters are all unique in what they desire just as submissives are driven by their individual desires.


Cuckolding is by definition a man having sex with another man’s wife. The modern variation of this is women taking control. Women are telling their men that they want to have another man. Men are finding out this is a huge turn on for them. This is not about cheating though in a lot of cases it starts out that way. For myself it was process. We started out talking about things discussing it, from there it grew into fantasy play, then finally deciding to have some fun with it. It is not something we do often but enjoy it greatly when we do. A lot of times we will have great fantasies for months about a fun time we had. Like all things sexual making it your own thing that you both enjoy is the important part. Some men greatly enjoy being locked up in a cock cage and not being allowed to have any pleasure while their wives are completely satisfied. Some men enjoy being made to do forced bi on a man that is getting what he can not have. Humiliation is often implemented but it does not have to be utilized. There is also the cleanup of another man’s sperm in their wives vagina. For a lot of men they greatly enjoy the feel and taste of licking up after another man. If you have ever thought of being cuckold this is something I can talk about all day. I have enjoyed the experience and think that it is great for growing a strong relationship between couples if it is done correctly. If you are a couple that has thought about it but you are not sure if it is for you. We can discuss it openly and honestly about what can be expected both emotionally and physically. Couples that explore their sexuality together and on open basis often have life long relationships that are extremely well balanced. It is your life you do not have to live it up to the expectations of others. If others are going to judge you they will find something to judge you about no matter what you do or do not do.

Orgasm Control Denial

There are many reason why a man might be into orgasm control. There are some men that want a woman to have complete control over every aspect of their sexuality. There are others that just enjoy the build up to a very hard explosive orgasm the kind that men of the modern world rarely have anymore. There are so many ways of having an orgasm in today’s modern world. It is not the same world where a man has to seek out a way instead he can obtain it on his phone or any given convenient store. There is something to be said about having to wait and then being allowed to have a wonderful orgasm after being teased for extended amount of time.

Most men want to have an orgasm at some point they do not want to be forced into permanent celibacy. This makes up the vast majority of men who are into orgasm control.  There is another group of men though that crave a deeper sense of commitment to their women. They want their woman to completely deny them all orgasms. They do not want to be shut out emotionally they want to be given complete emotional support from a woman that they adore. The feel of a woman’s touch becomes more and more electrifying the longer a man is forced to not allowed to orgasm.

These men understand that the longer they are denied the more emotionally connected to the women in their lives. For a man that craves something beyond the quick release of orgasm a woman that is willing to make them work for everything. A woman who knows how to control a man through sensual ways can create a world that most women only dream about through the occasional meme. A man will do anything for a woman that lovingly keeps him on the edge.  A man that gives himself over in all ways soon learns to crave more. The want of an orgasm is far more powerful than any drug. I have spoken to many men who were given a taste of this soon want it beyond anything else they can have.

For men who have never felt this kind of control often start thinking about how a man can want this. Then after awhile they want it they crave it and start to seek out the one woman that can give them everything they desire.

Financial Domination

Financial domination is one of those fetishes that can be a lot of fun or it can be really annoying for the Mistress. Financial domination is like any other power play. It is suppose to run where by taking a man’s money (this is largely a mans fetish) it causes him anxiety which in turn is a turn on. The feel of the butterflys and the knowledge that he is losing so much causes him to have a huge orgasm. A lot of men like the idea of a woman that fully controls him through what she wants. This all about giving up that large degree of control. This game can be high stakes hundreds of dollars going out at a time or a small stakes game. The big thing is communicating with the Mistress where a man feels comfortable at.

The Mistress of course enjoys getting paid large amounts for her time. It is like an all paid shopping trip to the one store she never goes to. Most Mistresses are more than willing to do smaller stake plays as long as they know that is what they are suppose to do.

The issues come in when  a man does not explain what he wants or how he wants it. A Mistress will go into these scenarios with an understanding that she is dealing with $50 to $100 a time that is where most men start. If a man wants to start out smaller then the polite thing to do is just say so.  If a man can not afford to play then this is not something he should do. The man and the Mistress will be both disappointed in how this fantasy turns out if one is at one level and the other is at a completely different level. The biggest issue I have ran across with financial domination is the men either not understand the basic rules of this scenario or not respecting them.

If a man can not play by the rules of financial domination there are plenty of other things that can be done between Mistress and servant. These can be just as full filling as financial domination. It is not okay and it is rude to tell a Mistress you want to do a certain type of play and know at the beginning that you are unable to complete it to the end. It is one thing to try something new and it not work out another to try and take advantage of someone.

A Sissy Slut is Born



What would prompt a man to want to put on a frilly little skirt like the one shown above.  When people think of men they do not picture them in such things as these. It is not something that men think of doing when they are growing up…. or is it? I have talked to a lot of men that at an early age want to wear all the girly things that they see other women wearing. They want to be able to have a closet full of clothes that as boys they are not allowed to have.  Maybe like this friend of mine they have very tiny penises so they never really feel like the men they see in the locker room. However, some of the men I talk to have large penises they can be very proud of. They still desire to be wearing the things that girls wear. They still think about being a sissy that can have a reason to purchase all those things other women are free to buy. They want to feel the wonderful girl fabrics against their skin. The day a man finally gives in to these desires the day he finally goes and purchases that first girly thing he has dreamed of and wanted. That is the day when a sissy is truly born. This is not generally a linear progression. Most men will buy and then purge all kinds of girls things over the course of years. Living in a world of denial that soon encompasses most of their free thoughts. Then there comes a day that they can no longer deny their true beings. That day is when they finally admit to themselves they are true sissies. That is the day they finally become happy with the person they have always been inside.



Trampling is the act of man laying down while a woman walks all over him. This can be a full body contact with him being basically used as a doormat or it can be focused on a certain part of man’s body. Generally this part of the body is the penis and or testicles. For a lot of men this is a very sexually encounter. They desire to be forced down and then used as a source of entertainment for a woman or even a group of women. They enjoy being no longer treated like a human being but as an object.  This is another fetish of power exchange. It can involve pain but for most men that are into trampling it is about the mental exchange more than the physical one.

While many Mistresses are forceful in how they deal with a trampling scenario for some it is more about the sensual taking over of a man’s mind and body. They use their feet as a way of blocking out the rest of the world and focusing a man’s full attention on them. Power exchanges are often about blocking out all the stress of the rest of the world. The men are craving a break from the high demands of their life and the women are there to give that to them.  People often wonder why men or women of power crave sexual situations that are more intense. These people are of strong minds they desire something that will break through their normal. Strong sexual situations take them to a new sense of release. The vanilla sex is comforting like a warm fuzzy blanket but it is not enough to pull them to a different level of who they desire to be.

Trampling is not something a large portion of the population would be drawn to. It is for a small group that is craving different, unique and intense.

Extreme Fantasy

One of the wonderful things about phone sex is the full spectrum of imagination that a person can have. We are able to step into worlds that are not achievable through real life scenarios. A lot of the fantasies that I discuss are not physically attainable.  That is part of the whole fun of the phone sex world.  People who have never played in  the phone sex world have issues with relating to the span of things that two people can achieve through telling each other a story or role playing. A person’s mind is very powerful it can achieve things that seem impossible at the beginning. It has been said that seventy five percent of sexuality is in the mind. For a lot of people they only rely on their physical response that would mean they are missing out on over half of the stimulation they can achieve. This is easy to understand if we step back into the first sexual encounters we had. The butterflies and the speciality of the first time of doing things from kissing to touching came from our mind being put into a state it had not been put in. If a person can step out of the mundane and into the unknown even if that is “just” in the mind it can be a charged sexual experience for all parties. I have been asked numerous times if I get turned on when I talk on the phone. Of course I do, however those times always happen when the person on the other side of the conversation is into the moment. I rarely get turned on when I tell a story though there have been a few times when I was able to tell a story that even I could not resist.

The role are as endless as the imagination and never ending with two people that are into. From vore which is a person being swallowed alive by a giant and then knowing everything that is happening to them.  Perhaps some  alien abduction and being used by a female or group of female aliens.  Maybe you are just a cuckold boy looking for the perfect cuckolding home? Have you thought of being put into a situation of forced bi sexuality we can do that in the safety of our role play. We can take it as extreme as you desire as long as it is something that turns us both on.

I am asked what is the biggest hinderance to a good phone sex relationship and the answer is the same as any other relationship communication.  Knowing what each person will make or break a session quicker than anything.  Be prepared to spend a few minutes explaining what you are into or maybe more important what you are not into. Tell the person you are talking to where you envision the role play going. I have had people who are great communicators be able to tell me a world of information in less than two  minutes so this is not something that will take a long amount of time.

….And The Panties Drop

download34When a panty sluts is being a bad boy he just has to get that bottom spanked. I really enjoy making that skin super red. Those pretty pink panties look so lovely underneath those very well worked cheeks. Of course taking him over my lap and spanking his bottom was the best part of the whole evening. Hooking my fingers on that tiny lace at the top of those panties pulling down till that bottom was exposed. After I got him where I wanted him his penis between my pantyhose covered thighs then I hooked my leg around his calves. He was not going anywhere as I worked his bottom over good. Of course he tried to squirm his way out of it what bad boy would not do so. I am strong enough to pin him down good though and keep him over my lap. Starting out with my bare hand till I get a nice pretty pink overlaying of welts. After starting with my hand getting out my wooden hair brush with the boar hair to turn it that beautiful shade of red.  After that I get out my leather brown belt that I wear with my jeans and finish off that bottom.

Forced Bi

Forced bi is a fetish that is seems to be becoming more popular. It is generally connected to a cuckolding situation where a man has a strong wife that makes him do things because it amuses her. This fantasy has little to do with man on man. The vast majority of these men would never go out and suck cock on their own. These men crave being under the control of a woman. They crave the want to do things that take them beyond their own mental discomfort but to that for someone. It is all about being submissive in situations that they do not want to be submissive in. Most of the things that turn us on sexually are created in our own minds. The act of a sexual action is very much secondary to the the mental turmoil that gets one there. Men that are into forced bi are not into men they are into the rush of the turmoil in their own minds. They want to be pushed to the point of true tears not the false bravado of an act but the true breakdown and giving up of themselves.

A lot of women have a hard time understanding what would make a man want to be this type of person. They think that men should be stronger than women. However, throughout history strong men have often been controlled by the women in their lives. There is something about having a woman that is demure in the streets but controls everything in the home. Women seem to think that sexually they do not have to be aggressive that being pursued is how things should be. For a lot of men though that is where they start out in a relationship but not where they end up. They want a woman that steadily finds herself and her own sense of control the closer that a man becomes with her. This is one of the main reasons why men become bored with a woman. When a woman fails to find her own sense of sexuality she burns out of the mundane and her partner burns out on her.

Forced bi is like a lot of the fringe acts they add a spark to a relationship to create that sense of butterflies again that people feel when a relationship is new. Not all elements of forced bi is the same from person to person our whole lives creates the things that we crave. However, one thing that does hold steady is the want for a woman to find herself sexually and exploit that. Men want to serve their women they may not want the whole world to know about though. Women often forget how a man becomes a “puppy dog” when a woman controls him sexually they become lazy in how they deal with their partner and no longer give them the tease or the chase. It is okay to say no as long as it builds up to something else. There is for a lot of people the thrill of a little humiliation which can often mimic the butterflies of something new. Like all drugs the rush must be obtained by raising the bar to a higher degree. This holds true when the chemicals are those produced by the body as well. Forced bi for many men is just a way of raising the bar and getting that dump of chemicals. If controlled in an honest, loving relationship there is nothing wrong with this. Being mean for the sake of destruction of another human being is never okay.

Have you ever thought about forced bi with a partner? Is this something you want to try or have tried? Tell me about it in the comments below then give me a call and lets discuss it further.

Financial Domination

Financial Domination is often misunderstood by men when they start to play in it. First off this is all about the money. If you do not have the money to play then you will cause the mistress to become frustrated. Remember you called her for a specific thing she has spent years working on how to make that fantasy the most fulfilling. If you call her and you can not indulge in the fantasy the way it is was meant to be then you are just being rude. There are plenty of other things you can do instead and they will be just as fun for you and her. However, if you call for financial domination then she is expecting you to get a rush or thrill from being put into unpleasant and increasing tightening of monies. It is not that she is a “gold digger” you called her for something that takes time and energy to learn so getting upset at her when you try to flip one thing into another is simply not okay. With all that said lets talk about what financial domination is and who is attracted to this type of play.

Financial Domination is generally a game that is played with someone who makes a lot of money. That income is part of their sense of power. When they have someone start to take that money away and as that game increases in amounts they start to feel more and more submissive. This game can start at any dollar amount but most the time it starts under $100 but can increase in amounts up thousands. There is a tease with the seduction coming from the pull of watching their wallet be drained. This game has been played for a long time in different ways. From the flirty woman who gets the man to spend money on her while she is being spoiled he is going without things that he wants or needs. At times it can be a woman taking money directly out of his wallet so the more the gives the thinner it becomes. With the modern world it is more about watching that bank account dwindle as he spoils that woman online.

The aspects of this game can be gifts of all kinds and different amounts starting out with little gifts with time becoming larger and more grand. Sometime it is just about money maybe paying her bills or giving her cash to spend on herself or others. She showcases that her life is becoming better while he works hard to give that to her. He of course only gets the enjoyment of losing those things that he once enjoyed or desired.

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