So I really do not plan these out they just kind of come to me right before my fingers touch the keys. Today I had a call come in on a spanking line with a gentleman I had done a call with a long while back. I will be honest if you call me regularly I will remember your voice and the basics of what we talked about. This was a very short call like one minute but the length of the call is not what I want to talk about. This gentleman asks me my name hmm you are calling a listing that is Diane Callaway and my name is Diane go figure. He then proceeds to ask me am I dominate or submissive. I tell him that I am very dominant this question does not upset me in any way there are a lot of people out there that are switches and besides I like it when guys ask me questions it gives me insight into them. He then proceeds to tell me that he remembers talking to me (which at this point in the call I do not remember him). He goes on to tell me that I balled him out because I told him that I did not believe in a “warm up” spanking. OHHH yes know I remember you I think to myself as the light bulb goes off in my head. It had probably been at least a month since I spoke this guy and it too was a short conversation though it was a wee bit longer that this call.
We get to the point of what I wish to talk about and that is warm up spanking. I do not believe in them at least not in the way that he wanted it. He wanted to be able to tell me how to give him a spanking how many swats he should get and how hard. The whole point of a spanking is to punish in a submissive dominate setting. Now I do understand that sometimes we spank to tease or to entice a sexual experience, but that is not we were discussing here. He was wanting a punishment spanking where he got to dictate the punishment and it does not work that way with me. If my submissive has done something that I feel warrants a spanking then I decide the details of that punishment. I am not going to beat someone until they are bleeding I am not that kind of person. I will however paddle a bottom until it is good and red. I will spank at my speed giving the skin time to recover so that the next swat is felt as much as the first swat.
I guess this particular gentleman was still upset over not being allowed to top from the bottom and he hung up before I could ask him more questions.