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Show Me Your Toe Nails

When it comes to sissification, there are some critical steps that every sissy must follow. First comes putting on lipstick yes there is some other makeup, but the lipstick portion is significant. While red is always my favorite color for a lot of sissy’s is pink. It would be easy to make fun of guys picking a traditional girly shade, but there is something to be said about rituals. I rarely wear pink but enjoy putting it on a sissy to show take them across the steps of becoming what they are inside.  The second step is panties us girls have such a selection of things to wear. There is a wide variety of fabrics and endless types of panties. It is a rabbit hole that a sissy can find them falling endlessly. Then, of course, there is toenails and the ritual of painting them.

Toes seem to be a dirty little secret that becomes an intense ritual for my sissies and me. It is something they can do during the ordinary course of a day. They can wear their pretty toenails while they are at the office. Something that is even more fun to do is have a sissy wear their toenail polish while out with their boys.  It is intense to have them hide this under socks while doing something very manly.  Making them send a picture of their toes done in my color when their buddies are sitting outside the bathroom is intense for both of us.

The color does not matter it is all about having a secret that he does not want anyone to know about yet wants everyone to know. The thrill comes from the thought of getting caught. Getting caught in a non controlled situation is a letdown. That never goes the way our fantasy wants it to go. Sissification is all about the build-up and the imagination. That is why toes nails and nail checks are always one of the first things I make my sissy do for me. From the thrill of having to purchase something so small but meaningful to learning how to put it on correctly the ritual is what it is all about.

Ever thought about being under the control of a woman tell your story. Where does your fantasy take you and under what circumstances where you made to make your toenails pretty.  If you have yet to have that pleasure what is your fantasy of being forced to be girly in this or other ways? I would enjoy hearing all about especially the ritual portion and what that means to you.

Tied In Pantyhose Vs Tied In Ropes

There are many types of dominant women and just as many types of submissive men.  When it comes to men that enjoy being feminization the thought of ropes is probably not something they wish to explore.  Women who enjoy placing men in situations where their manhood is stripped away would never dream of using ropes.  Tying someone in firm white cotton rope, while a common practice in BDSM is about removing the ability of movement and pushing someone towards objectification.  Feminization, on the other hand, is about taking away manhood and pushing a man towards more thinking not less.  Women like myself desire a man to concentrate on the details. We want a man to notice how the fabric feels against his skin. The smell of the female products changes how a man starts to see himself.  In other BDSM situations, it is more about taking things away then adding things to. Men in high power often want to have things taken away control, sensations, and decisions.  I have played on both sides of this it is enjoyable for me to take apart and also to push boundaries. I often put this experience in the expression of “sometimes in life we push, and sometimes we pull.” I pull men towards feminization and push them towards submission.

When we tie a man up in pantyhose, we are pulling him towards feminization. Pantyhose are deceptive in what can be accomplished with them. On the first touch, pantyhose can seem very delicate, and in the single layer, they are fragile.  Placing a man in pantyhose making him wear them is a reminder of how the fabric feels. Nylons are silky when brushed one way, but if swept the opposite they are scratchy.  Wearing hose all night letting a man play with them, hear them touch against themselves, and the smell that is unique can be a tease situation.  Taking a man home to brush those hose against the skin makes the skin more sensitive. Then taking those pantyhose to use them in tying a man up. He thought he was going to be allowed to use his penis. In feminization, the most important step is removing the power of the penis. Pantyhose are lovely for taking a man to a new state of mind of being a feminized playtoy. Those soft silky hose are beautiful in that they are strong when utilized to keep a man in awkward positions.

If I want a man to step out of his head, I will tie him up with rope. On the other hand, if my complete desire to have a man tangled up in his mind nylons become the proper choice. The more he struggles in trying to get away the tighter those bindings become. Rope the knots stay fairly loose a person can work to get themselves out of them at least the kind we utilize during BDSM play. Pantyhose knots increase in tightness the more one pulls against them. I will always have scissors on hand but only use them at my discretion.

Feminization From A Woman’s View

When I first started on the internet the only exposure I had received from feminization was a friend who had went through gender transition surgery. After a few years, I was introduced to forced feminization. I had never thought of creating a situation where a man had his masculinity stripped away and replaced with female attributes.  Once I found out that men were indeed into this, it was something I wanted to explore further. I have been dominant my entire life. Sexually I started studying my different kinks when I moved out.  I thought I knew a lot about kinks it surprised me when I did not know about feminization.  I am tactile by nature it is easy to understand why a man would be attracted to the silky things women wear.  For some men it is all about the fabric from satin to nylon pantyhose it heightens their arousal. Some men are into power exchange having a woman take full control over them. A lot of men are taught at a young age to not wear girl things.  When a man is put in a position with a woman in which she takes full control over him that can be exciting in a level they never dreamed possible.

Feminization, while varied from person to person, is often about power exchange.  For me, feminization is about taking a man and turning him into something he never saw himself as being. It is about the little things the catch of his breath when he decides to submit to my deviant desires. The look of terror on his face when he is stripped of everything that made him manly and placed into that first pair of panties.  I want a man that would never do this on his own. His desire for feminization comes from the intense need to please me.  I am not into breaking someone through force that is something that bores me. I want a man who yearns to give me his submission. Feminization is about taking control and giving a man an adventure he may have never thought of.

Some men want to be feminized I enjoy talking to them we share a lot of the same thoughts. When it comes to real life playmates, I want the man who never thought he would find himself where he is. It is about taking someone beyond their thoughts and into a world only I can give them.  I have just done this in person a few times and all those times have created memories that I would never change.  Pulling a person out of a comfort zone is something part of being dominant. It is fun to dress a man up in outrageous outfits then make him wear them is a significant part of the feminization adventure.  High heels and lipstick take on a special meaning when it comes to learning how to use them.

First Day Of July

I wanted to check in with everyone. The end of June picked up speed and before I knew it was poof gone. Not all of my goals came to fruition that is okay that is why they are goals. I did get some podcasts made I will be posting those probably today. I did not get my second part of the Raven Hills Chronicles completed (bad me) I will be working on that this week. I also have some other projects to complete. In the next couple of days, I will get the calendar for July put up. The problem I have with mp3’s is that is HOT here like 100 degrees at 10 am hot. The only place I have to record is my car. Outside is way too loud with the critters always making noise and inside there is the hum of the ac which is a lot louder on the recording than in real time. My car is super hot very quickly, and I am not a 6 am riser. I did make some progress the other day which always motivates me. I am also doing a lot of work around the house there are only so many hours in the day, and they have to go somewhere. I am happy with the progress that occurred in June overall. We had a great month in so many ways. In the past, we have always done the total work on all projects which meant putting a ton of time into them. During May we decided we were going to hire a crew to come to pour a significant slab of concrete. It was so worth it. They did such a great job that we are bringing them back out this month to pour a concrete floor in a building we built and help us finish the outside of it. As we get older what makes us super happy changes drastically. We need this building the car projects are all at a standstill. We just can not do any more on them without a hard pad. Being self-employed has its disadvantages in that we wear all the hats. (Sometimes wearing all the hats is a significant advantage though.) Hope you have a beautiful Summer or Winter where ever you are in the world.

Role Play Vs Real Play

I am a lifestyler, so that means I have done both real play and role play. Real play and role play are both fun and sexually stimulating. Humans need the mental aspect of sexuality. The physical point of being touched by someone is not what creates an intense orgasm. It is the tease that builds up the intensity of how we react to a partner. Humans are complicated yet simple. Think about the first time you were involved in a sexual interaction. Most of us have a long time of trying to get from one aspect of sexuality to another. The whole baseball comparison of first base, second base, and the home run it cliche but explains the tease/denial aspect.  I have had people tell me there is no connection between role play and real play that is untrue. I have had a real play that was disappointing. There has been roleplaying over the years in which the orgasm was intense. It is the interaction of the people involved and how much they invest into the situation that determines its outcome.

Read an article on marriage and ti will tell people that sex gets better for people involved in a relationship. Being in a relationship can be great, or it can be horrid. Over the years people have told me they do not share the kinks with their partner about the intriguing fantasies they have. I would not want to be with someone I could not open up to.  If a person is in a relationship that offers sexual exploration, then it would be great for sexuality. If a person feels the need to hide certain parts of who they are then they will withdraw from the relationship and sexuality will suffer.  It is not necessary for my mind to have a romantic relationship to have a sexual relationship. I have played with several people over the years who I enjoyed but would not have wanted to spend every day in the company of.

When it comes to role play (I am defining this as two people in two different locations in this instance) in my experience, this can be just as wonderful if not more so than real play. Over the years I have talked to some fun individuals even though we were hundred if not thousand of miles our play time proved to be sexually stimulating.  After being around human sexuality of people, I do not have an intimate daily relationship with I have discovered there can be role play that is intense.  I have some people that I have talked to for over eleven years they have shared with me intimate, deep parts of their life. I know more about them then their stream of significant other through all that time. While we may not have the daily connection due to our strict relationship limited by circumstances the understanding of sexuality is intense. Most of the time these fetishes are innocent. A lot of men are into panties, pantyhose, being tied up, or different roles where women are in control. I enjoy hearing about them, and it saddens me in a lot of ways to think they do not have a level of comfort to share. Explore the parts of yourself even if you are not sure how it will be received understand that many have already traveled that road. Be yourself be open and surround yourself with people who adore you for you, not for your sexuality.

How Did I Become Dominant

Everyone asks me when I found out I was dominant and the answer to the question is there was never a time in my life I was not dominant. Even as a young child I would take control of a situation. Being dominant in any given case came naturally to me. As I grew into a teenager I was never a swooning teenager at no point did I have boy bands decorating my walls. My whole life books were an essential part of who I was. I would read anything that presented itself including romance novels. The submissive women in the stories annoyed me. I always wanted to be the dominant one. If you have never read women romance novels, they are the same setup. There is a strong man that the women could never be with they are thrown together in some form of sexual encounter. The man gives the lead heroine a night she can always remember life breaks them apart and then by the end of the novel they are thrown back together. The couple is expected to live happily ever after.

Even growing up I had issues with how the girls around me viewed sexuality.  Commitment and love were different than sex for me; I expect far more from my partner in life than I demand from a sexual playmate. The first time I felt an attraction towards women came early for me. I did not realize it at the time it was going on. First I thought all girls felt that way towards other women. Even at this age, I remain unconvinced that women do not have crushes towards other women. When it comes to being dominant, there is no difference between women and men for me. I do not know if I would be submissive towards a woman only because that situation has never presented itself.  I do not believe I could feel submissive towards anyone.

I have only dated one man in my life, and the attraction was immediate. He is dominant with everyone but me. We are equals in all areas except one, and that is the bedroom. In the bedroom, I am in control, and he enjoys being under that control. I am not submissive to men I had tried when I was younger I could not appreciate the situation. We have a live-in girlfriend that we have dated for almost 15 years.

Recently, I wrote my first novella Times are Changing, of course, the main character is a strong young woman finding her sexuality. While I have many books planned they will always involve strong women taking control of their partners. I am writing the books that I wish I could have read when I was a younger woman trying to find my sexuality.

Frat Boys

I recently graduated from college with another degree during my stay to finish off this degree the opportunity presented that I could hang out with some frat boys. Through the years I have been around many present and past frat boys. Dressing up as women is often a punishment or hazing that men use against each other.  One of the characters I am working on is a girl who comes from the midwest. She is pulled into a situation that involves teaching frat boy a lesson about how being a woman is not as easy as he believes it to be. I have a friend Kylie Gable who came to be under the control of some women due to inappropriate young man behavior. Through listening to the things these women did to Kylie, it made me wonder what it was like from the woman’s side.

Lindsey my character came out of those stories, the frat boys I had met over the years and my adventures. She is a young midwest girl thrown into a California University.  The rudeness of the boys surrounding her is not something she handles well. At first, she tries to be careful about everything, but after awhile she gets to the end of her patience.

Frat boys are like all men they enjoy a woman who is controlling most respond best to sensual domination rather than someone who yells at them. Over the years I have noticed a lot of men starting out in college enjoy being placed in a feminine situation as long as it not in their control to be there.  The games their brothers play on them of having to wear clothing that is considered female while meant to be degrading are often empowering for later years.  Some men throughout the years have told me their feminine adventures started with events that happened in high school and college.  Panties and bras are often the starting points that take humiliated frat boys to the next step in the adventure.

Frat boys would never let on to the men they live with that the feel of women’s clothing is not humiliating but something that turns them on.  When men are young, it is common for them to purchase outfits then purge them out of a range of emotions.  When I was young, I could never understand why men of their late teens and early twenties would go along with having to wear clothing while their friends made fun of them. Now that I am older it is understandable that the humiliation is a sexual turn on.  The dress is part of the process that causes an adrenaline rush. While most frat boys probably do not think about the situation creating a sexual rush for their buddies in the end sometimes that is the result of hazing.

What You didn’t know

A little about me. I am in my forties and probably more happy now than I have ever been at any other point in my life. I live on 15 acres with my husband and our girlfriend of 15 years Chilly Hicks.  I have never been a city girl the thought of crowds stress me out. We started our first business in 2007 at that time I was not sure how I or others would react to us working in the adult industry. Through the years I have learned a lot. First off women like myself who work in the adult industry are some of the smartest, toughest women one could meet. We build a business teach ourselves everything and take a lot of crap that we should never have to deal with. Second, off I have met some awesome people in generally sure there are jerks, but you get that everywhere. Third I am dominant I can not play the submissive, and I can not deal with subjects I do not enjoy.

Writing for me has always been comfortable in high school I was one of those people that wrote term papers for extra cash. There were more than a few jocks who would not have graduated if it was not for me. I had never written fiction before starting my own business. It started out with writing scripts from mp3 or shorts for other works we were producing. About four years ago I decided I wanted to start writing in erotica. There were things in the way of that, and the timing was not right. I wanted to finish off a degree first, so I went back to school took the classes I needed and some creative writing classes.  I started on some story ideas during this time but did not get a lot finished. Now I am free to write what I want and how I want.

I am a reader of course and have read a lot of things that are self-published. There is a considerable amount of hard to read and follow writing out there. I want to publish real stories with strong women as the main character.  My main goal is to write something that makes you the reader want to read more. There needs to be a connection with the main character or maybe a side character without that connection there is no desire to come back for more. When it comes to the erotic scenes, I have read a number of the same things you have I understand that writers tend to speed through them. We read erotica for the graphic nature and spending time during that interaction makes the work something we want to revisit.

I hope that you will join me on this journey. Feel free to interact with me and offer suggestions. Our lives should always be based on growing who we are and exploring what we enjoy.

Pantyhose Destruction

Pantyhose destruction fascination or fetish comes in some different ways. Some men enjoy having women wear nylons for them. There are men that enjoy wearing pantyhose themselves. A smaller number of men are into the destruction of pantyhose.  They enjoy the way the nylon feels as it slowly rips. Watching the runs start to form, and the strands start to stretch until it gives way to the pull on each side. Most people are not aware, but pantyhose have a smell that comes from the nylon particles being separated. When it comes to specific fetishes such as pantyhose destruction the details are the most critical part. Sounds, smells, sight all play into the turn on for the person with the fetish.

Through the years I have talked in depth with some men who all enjoy variations of this type of play. Generally, it starts with innocent events of no sexual nature. These events can be brushing up against a pantyhose covered leg to snag it and cause a run. This simple act of accidental destruction can start a chain reaction to a fetish. Pantyhose destruction evokes a sense of euphoric pleasure through the course of demolishing the nylon.  Destruction of pantyhose can be compared to popping balloons or bubbles.  The sexual side of it is complicated in how it presents and unique to each person.

Women destroying pantyhose while men watch there is often a layer of a power play. The men are forced to sit there while their favorite article of clothing torn to pieces.  Most often it is playful a tease and denial of what is allowed.  The women wear a silky pair of hose enabling the men to stroke their legs. The fun part comes when a man gets worked up then told to sit. The men generally do not enjoy the destruction process they enjoy buildup and tease. In the end, the sexual portion comes into play when the men do what the woman asks to attempt to save their favorite pair of hose.

Pantyhose destruction involving men and women can also come with the role play of passion. Think about the romance novel scene where a man passionately grabs a woman and tears her pantyhose off.  It takes people out of the healthy sexuality and adds a level of spice to a night.

There are a number of fetishes that invoke a level of misunderstanding. Pantyhose destruction has an element often misunderstood by people who have never experienced it. Having been exposed to this fetish along with other fetishes, it is fun to play with. I enjoy power play situations especially those that evoke a man to be uncomfortable.  Two people can appreciate each other’s differences, and both enjoy the moment even if they do not share the same fetishes.

Leaving Effective Feedback For A Phone Sex Call

A lot of phone sex operators but a tremendous amount of emphasis on feedback. For myself I do not pay a lot of attention to it. I feel that I get enough feedback from my callers that being concerned about it is not a good utilization of my time. I do want to talk about some things that I feel are important when it comes to feed back. In a number of ways these are universal in nature.

Phone sex operators (pso)  can not control the quality of a call on a large scale. There are so many factors that determine how well a call sounds that while we can make sure we have the best phone service and a good quality phone that is about all we can do. I do not use a cell phone when I started out I did but it caused me so many headaches I quickly changed that. If you use a cell phone there are things that can and will happen. You can have a call drop with plenty of towers showing if the tower gets overloaded your call can just go POOF! You can get static or the “under water” effect where it is just hard to hear. You can have issues with calls connecting or with having it register numbers on your key pad. This is not your fault and certainly not the phone sex operators fault it is not even the fault of the carrier, cell phones just do these things sometimes.  If a call drops there is nothing the pso could have done to prevent or circumvent that so leaving bad feedback on them is just not justified.

If you and the pso just do not agree some people click and some people just never click. I have been doing this for a long time and though this doesn’t happen very often sometimes a caller and me just do not mesh. It does not make me angry there are times when I will just say hey we are not compatible how about you try xyz.  I want happy customers that come back. I think the vast majority of pso’s feel the same way. On this same aspect please do not call a pso that is opposite of what you want. If she/he is dominate and you want to break someone pick someone that is into that kind of play. Tell a new person what you are looking or up front. I get people all the time that tell me that was the best call I have ever had and the reason for this is I try to find what they like. I can easily adapt to someone if they are honest.

Do not expect a pso to break the rules I know you as a caller do not always know the rules. That is okay we will tell you generally in a really nice way sorry we can not do that. We have rules and while we can decide to some degree what we want to talk about there are hard core rules we have to follow. If you are being judgmental of a pso protecting their lively hood on a larger scale that is just not fair.

Now we can discuss what is awesome. First off be honest we can all appreciate honesty. If the pso did not give you what you were looking for ask yourself did I communicate this with them. If you did and there was no reason for them not to comply then that is a reason to put that down.  Did they speak too soft, too loud, or pause too much? We all have off days we are only human here but these are things that feedback is made for. It is perfectly good to give both good and bad that is highly constructive and most pso want to learn to deliver a better call.  If your issue is technical please do not leave that in feedback rarely will you run into a pso that is not willing to help you fix an issue. We want your time to be enjoyable it should be something you look forward to doing again.

Let me hear your thoughts in the comments below!