Fall is here and one tradition I started about five years ago was growing out my underarms and my hoochie. It all started because some of my callers were interested in underarm hair. I had never thought about before they asked but because I enjoy a great adventure I thought why not give it a shot. It might have started for you all but my husband soon started talking about how much he enjoyed it. I only keep it in the fall and it is a tradition I plan on keeping. One thing I have noticed is that despite what people think my underarms do not smell and they are less sweaty. Women often underestimate the power our scent has on a partner. We can make our partners do all kinds of fun things by utilizing what is naturally occurring to our bodies. There is an erotic side to having soft furry armpits. When they are blown on or lightly touched it sends shivers all through my body. I like when someone nuzzles into them. The most important thing I have discovered with having my armpits grown out is not to wear a lot of deodorants it is not needed and tastes nasty if someone kisses on them. When it comes to my hairy cunt I like the curls. I tend to let it grow out for about a month and then take a pair of scissors to the just the lips. I keep them a bit shorter than the upper portion which I let grow out completely. Having my lips sucked on or even lightly nibbled on has always been a huge turn for me. But when they are hairy there is just something different about them. I like to keep things different so having them be hairy all the time is not a way I would keep my pussy. I enjoy the feel of a tongue running all the way up my clit as it brushes up through those curls. I am not even sure why we girls thought we had to shave things off the way we do all the time. In the summer when bikinis are tight and shirts are sleeveless it is one thing. In the fall and winter, the cooler weather gives us the freedom to do things because we want to. In the last few years there has come the “Shaveless November” I know a number of men who enjoy the thought of their women letting things grow to a more natural state. The hair also changes how our bodies smell and from what I have been told at least in my case that is a really good thing. What about you? Do you enjoy when a woman lets her natural body hair grow a bit? If its something that you enjoy what about it makes it special to you? Have you ever talked a woman into growing her hair out and did it change how she smelled to you?
When we are young we think of busting a boy in his balls as a means of complete control. We try to tell those around us how we would never do such a thing. In our secret deviant thought, there is always the want to find out what our feet feel like against the softness of squishy balls. Respectable women around us girls are quick to say how a “lady” would never do such a thing. We grow up being told all these things. Then there comes the day when we finally meet up with a man unlike all the others we have been around. This man enjoys the control of a woman and wants to be at our complete mercy or non-mercy. If we are lucky he will tell us all the dirty secrets that have plagued him through the years. A man that will confess how he was an obnoxious boy that pushed one girl too far. She did what all us girls would never do she smashed her tiny foot right into his balls. Of course, this incident is seared into his mind in a way that will never go away. At the time of the debacle, he screams in agony and despises her for putting him on the floor curled up in a fetal position. Something strange happens as the years progress forward. This man grows older and no other woman behaves like “her.” She becomes the woman that he compares all others to and they are lacking. He wants a woman that will own him and will make him do things that are uncomfortable. His confession leads women like me to a freedom we never knew. We are able to take this man and create the world we wanted. The desire of a submissive will always rule a dominant woman. We want to be served and desire a servant who craves our attention.
The day that a dominant woman meets a submissive man is a perfect day for both. The women are allowed to do the things they always wanted to do and with men who desire to have their balls set on fire by a ladies foot, they get everything wanted for all those years. Ballbusting is an art learned it is not about pain over and over though people less educated believe it to be. Instead of ball busting is about teasing, the anticipation of what is to come. The longer we string out the final act the more of a turn on it is for both the dominant and the submissive. There is a level of humiliation to be had in the cat and mouse game. Most of the time it is playful back and forth one that is hard to understand by those outside the adventure. Pleasure is often a mixture of pain and joy for those that choose to go past the vanilla can never return to sex in the same way. The power of a woman is often underused.
The words erotica and erotic are often thrown around to mean different things. When it comes to us on a personal level these words can have very different meanings from individual to individual. I have been working in adult industries for over ten years now. I have had a wonderful time talking with men and women about the things that turn them on. The mainstream porn sites rarely put out content that would appeal to the people I have interacted with throughout all these years. This could be I attract a certain kind of people and that would make sense. On the other aspect, it could be the producers think they know what people want without actually knowing what people want. I can remember years ago when porn had some type of story most the time these were cheesy but at least it was something we could follow. About ten years ago things starting shifting to a hardcore sexual loop. I have read or watched adult content since I was a teenager when the industry starting shifting to just looping sex scenes I lost interest. Erotica to me is the work up a sexual act. I like the interaction between myself and my partner the push and pull of teasing that makes the moment exciting. When I read or write a scene I want to draw out those moments. There is something magical about how we react to those around us in a sexual manner. This interaction is what made sex so exciting when we were young. Most of us feel that spark of such simple actions as holding hands or having our skin touch another person. When we are older we want to bring that electricity back into our lives. After we have been with someone for years that spark lessens in intensity. For some people, this can result in dangerous or destructive behavior that breaks down full relationships. Erotica to me is meant to be a safe way to explore areas that we want to think about but not physically explore. It can be part of a healthy relationship where a couple shares fantasies together instead of searching outside the commitment to each other. Erotica is not about scenes but more about feelings. Intense orgasms are built through the mental aspect of sexuality. I prefer to read erotica instead of watching it and when I read it I want to feel that the scene is slowed down allowing me to place myself in that situation. Most erotica rushes through the buildup to get to the hardcore sex scene. As I am writing I want to be able to give my reader something different just as intense but with more emphasis on how the participants got to that point. Our world has evolved into rushing into everything with this rushing we have lost part of our sexuality this has left a lot of wanting for interactions that we just do not get. Erotica to me should be about slowing things down and letting a scene play out in a way we often want but rarely receive.
When it comes to women’s beautiful bottoms there is a difference between what men enjoy. I, Diane was born with a fairly large bottom. I can remember when I was younger being told I had better watch what I ate because it would go straight to my bottom. Luckily I was blessed with people around me who greatly enjoy a rather large bubble butt. I do work hard to keep it from getting out of control. I am familiar with about every squat ever invented. They are not my favorite thing to do but a girl’s gotta stay in charge of a situation. Chilly, on the other hand, has had a rather small bottom that I can cup in my hands. Her bottom keeps trying to run away. She is familiar with squats because she likes that tuck. Those of us who enjoy the graceful beauty of a woman’s behind is familiar with the tuck. Both of us enjoy the concept of having our bottoms worshiped by another person. Chilly is submissive and enjoys when I turn her into my slut for the afternoon. She is very good at rubbing that round bottom of mine. Letting her fingers trail over those soft cheeks and kissing that voluptuousness right in front of her face. Whether it is a man down underneath me or a gorgeous woman; being dominant I enjoy a slow time of kissing that bottom of mine. I like to be on top sitting down on my submissive’s face those cheeks of mine on each side of their face. This put’s the submissive’s tongue lined up perfectly with what they should be concentrating on. When it comes to ass worship slow is the best speed. Time should be well spent on rubbing those cheeks moving on to kissing all over. I do not want an inch of my bottom to missed by those eager lips. After I am very turned on that is when a tongue should be used to tease that long luxurious crack and even down to that tight little hole. I have been asked through the years if I enjoy anal and yes I do but only after enough time has been invested into really getting me worked up. Chilly enjoys being under someone else’s control though she can be a switch when caught in the right mood. She enjoys being bent over with that bottom way up in the air. The act of being exposed and teased is a huge turn on for her. Being pinned down and she would beg to have lips and tongue used to turn her on even more. A hard pounding is something that gets her wet in all the right places. How worked up do you get when it comes to a woman’s bottom? What are some of your favorite things to do or be made to do with those curves? Have you ever had a woman dominate you with her ample booty? What is your favorite shape for a woman’s behind?
When it comes to sissification, there are some critical steps that every sissy must follow. First comes putting on lipstick yes there is some other makeup, but the lipstick portion is significant. While red is always my favorite color for a lot of sissy’s is pink. It would be easy to make fun of guys picking a traditional girly shade, but there is something to be said about rituals. I rarely wear pink but enjoy putting it on a sissy to show take them across the steps of becoming what they are inside. The second step is panties us girls have such a selection of things to wear. There is a wide variety of fabrics and endless types of panties. It is a rabbit hole that a sissy can find them falling endlessly. Then, of course, there is toenails and the ritual of painting them.
Toes seem to be a dirty little secret that becomes an intense ritual for my sissies and me. It is something they can do during the ordinary course of a day. They can wear their pretty toenails while they are at the office. Something that is even more fun to do is have a sissy wear their toenail polish while out with their boys. It is intense to have them hide this under socks while doing something very manly. Making them send a picture of their toes done in my color when their buddies are sitting outside the bathroom is intense for both of us.
The color does not matter it is all about having a secret that he does not want anyone to know about yet wants everyone to know. The thrill comes from the thought of getting caught. Getting caught in a non controlled situation is a letdown. That never goes the way our fantasy wants it to go. Sissification is all about the build-up and the imagination. That is why toes nails and nail checks are always one of the first things I make my sissy do for me. From the thrill of having to purchase something so small but meaningful to learning how to put it on correctly the ritual is what it is all about.
Ever thought about being under the control of a woman tell your story. Where does your fantasy take you and under what circumstances where you made to make your toenails pretty. If you have yet to have that pleasure what is your fantasy of being forced to be girly in this or other ways? I would enjoy hearing all about especially the ritual portion and what that means to you.
There are many types of dominant women and just as many types of submissive men. When it comes to men that enjoy being feminization the thought of ropes is probably not something they wish to explore. Women who enjoy placing men in situations where their manhood is stripped away would never dream of using ropes. Tying someone in firm white cotton rope, while a common practice in BDSM is about removing the ability of movement and pushing someone towards objectification. Feminization, on the other hand, is about taking away manhood and pushing a man towards more thinking not less. Women like myself desire a man to concentrate on the details. We want a man to notice how the fabric feels against his skin. The smell of the female products changes how a man starts to see himself. In other BDSM situations, it is more about taking things away then adding things to. Men in high power often want to have things taken away control, sensations, and decisions. I have played on both sides of this it is enjoyable for me to take apart and also to push boundaries. I often put this experience in the expression of “sometimes in life we push, and sometimes we pull.” I pull men towards feminization and push them towards submission.
When we tie a man up in pantyhose, we are pulling him towards feminization. Pantyhose are deceptive in what can be accomplished with them. On the first touch, pantyhose can seem very delicate, and in the single layer, they are fragile. Placing a man in pantyhose making him wear them is a reminder of how the fabric feels. Nylons are silky when brushed one way, but if swept the opposite they are scratchy. Wearing hose all night letting a man play with them, hear them touch against themselves, and the smell that is unique can be a tease situation. Taking a man home to brush those hose against the skin makes the skin more sensitive. Then taking those pantyhose to use them in tying a man up. He thought he was going to be allowed to use his penis. In feminization, the most important step is removing the power of the penis. Pantyhose are lovely for taking a man to a new state of mind of being a feminized playtoy. Those soft silky hose are beautiful in that they are strong when utilized to keep a man in awkward positions.
If I want a man to step out of his head, I will tie him up with rope. On the other hand, if my complete desire to have a man tangled up in his mind nylons become the proper choice. The more he struggles in trying to get away the tighter those bindings become. Rope the knots stay fairly loose a person can work to get themselves out of them at least the kind we utilize during BDSM play. Pantyhose knots increase in tightness the more one pulls against them. I will always have scissors on hand but only use them at my discretion.
When I first started on the internet the only exposure I had received from feminization was a friend who had went through gender transition surgery. After a few years, I was introduced to forced feminization. I had never thought of creating a situation where a man had his masculinity stripped away and replaced with female attributes. Once I found out that men were indeed into this, it was something I wanted to explore further. I have been dominant my entire life. Sexually I started studying my different kinks when I moved out. I thought I knew a lot about kinks it surprised me when I did not know about feminization. I am tactile by nature it is easy to understand why a man would be attracted to the silky things women wear. For some men it is all about the fabric from satin to nylon pantyhose it heightens their arousal. Some men are into power exchange having a woman take full control over them. A lot of men are taught at a young age to not wear girl things. When a man is put in a position with a woman in which she takes full control over him that can be exciting in a level they never dreamed possible.
Feminization, while varied from person to person, is often about power exchange. For me, feminization is about taking a man and turning him into something he never saw himself as being. It is about the little things the catch of his breath when he decides to submit to my deviant desires. The look of terror on his face when he is stripped of everything that made him manly and placed into that first pair of panties. I want a man that would never do this on his own. His desire for feminization comes from the intense need to please me. I am not into breaking someone through force that is something that bores me. I want a man who yearns to give me his submission. Feminization is about taking control and giving a man an adventure he may have never thought of.
Some men want to be feminized I enjoy talking to them we share a lot of the same thoughts. When it comes to real life playmates, I want the man who never thought he would find himself where he is. It is about taking someone beyond their thoughts and into a world only I can give them. I have just done this in person a few times and all those times have created memories that I would never change. Pulling a person out of a comfort zone is something part of being dominant. It is fun to dress a man up in outrageous outfits then make him wear them is a significant part of the feminization adventure. High heels and lipstick take on a special meaning when it comes to learning how to use them.
I wanted to check in with everyone. The end of June picked up speed and before I knew it was poof gone. Not all of my goals came to fruition that is okay that is why they are goals. I did get some podcasts made I will be posting those probably today. I did not get my second part of the Raven Hills Chronicles completed (bad me) I will be working on that this week. I also have some other projects to complete. In the next couple of days, I will get the calendar for July put up. The problem I have with mp3’s is that is HOT here like 100 degrees at 10 am hot. The only place I have to record is my car. Outside is way too loud with the critters always making noise and inside there is the hum of the ac which is a lot louder on the recording than in real time. My car is super hot very quickly, and I am not a 6 am riser. I did make some progress the other day which always motivates me. I am also doing a lot of work around the house there are only so many hours in the day, and they have to go somewhere. I am happy with the progress that occurred in June overall. We had a great month in so many ways. In the past, we have always done the total work on all projects which meant putting a ton of time into them. During May we decided we were going to hire a crew to come to pour a significant slab of concrete. It was so worth it. They did such a great job that we are bringing them back out this month to pour a concrete floor in a building we built and help us finish the outside of it. As we get older what makes us super happy changes drastically. We need this building the car projects are all at a standstill. We just can not do any more on them without a hard pad. Being self-employed has its disadvantages in that we wear all the hats. (Sometimes wearing all the hats is a significant advantage though.) Hope you have a beautiful Summer or Winter where ever you are in the world.
I am a lifestyler, so that means I have done both real play and role play. Real play and role play are both fun and sexually stimulating. Humans need the mental aspect of sexuality. The physical point of being touched by someone is not what creates an intense orgasm. It is the tease that builds up the intensity of how we react to a partner. Humans are complicated yet simple. Think about the first time you were involved in a sexual interaction. Most of us have a long time of trying to get from one aspect of sexuality to another. The whole baseball comparison of first base, second base, and the home run it cliche but explains the tease/denial aspect. I have had people tell me there is no connection between role play and real play that is untrue. I have had a real play that was disappointing. There has been roleplaying over the years in which the orgasm was intense. It is the interaction of the people involved and how much they invest into the situation that determines its outcome.
Read an article on marriage and ti will tell people that sex gets better for people involved in a relationship. Being in a relationship can be great, or it can be horrid. Over the years people have told me they do not share the kinks with their partner about the intriguing fantasies they have. I would not want to be with someone I could not open up to. If a person is in a relationship that offers sexual exploration, then it would be great for sexuality. If a person feels the need to hide certain parts of who they are then they will withdraw from the relationship and sexuality will suffer. It is not necessary for my mind to have a romantic relationship to have a sexual relationship. I have played with several people over the years who I enjoyed but would not have wanted to spend every day in the company of.
When it comes to role play (I am defining this as two people in two different locations in this instance) in my experience, this can be just as wonderful if not more so than real play. Over the years I have talked to some fun individuals even though we were hundred if not thousand of miles our play time proved to be sexually stimulating. After being around human sexuality of people, I do not have an intimate daily relationship with I have discovered there can be role play that is intense. I have some people that I have talked to for over eleven years they have shared with me intimate, deep parts of their life. I know more about them then their stream of significant other through all that time. While we may not have the daily connection due to our strict relationship limited by circumstances the understanding of sexuality is intense. Most of the time these fetishes are innocent. A lot of men are into panties, pantyhose, being tied up, or different roles where women are in control. I enjoy hearing about them, and it saddens me in a lot of ways to think they do not have a level of comfort to share. Explore the parts of yourself even if you are not sure how it will be received understand that many have already traveled that road. Be yourself be open and surround yourself with people who adore you for you, not for your sexuality.
Everyone asks me when I found out I was dominant and the answer to the question is there was never a time in my life I was not dominant. Even as a young child I would take control of a situation. Being dominant in any given case came naturally to me. As I grew into a teenager I was never a swooning teenager at no point did I have boy bands decorating my walls. My whole life books were an essential part of who I was. I would read anything that presented itself including romance novels. The submissive women in the stories annoyed me. I always wanted to be the dominant one. If you have never read women romance novels, they are the same setup. There is a strong man that the women could never be with they are thrown together in some form of sexual encounter. The man gives the lead heroine a night she can always remember life breaks them apart and then by the end of the novel they are thrown back together. The couple is expected to live happily ever after.
Even growing up I had issues with how the girls around me viewed sexuality. Commitment and love were different than sex for me; I expect far more from my partner in life than I demand from a sexual playmate. The first time I felt an attraction towards women came early for me. I did not realize it at the time it was going on. First I thought all girls felt that way towards other women. Even at this age, I remain unconvinced that women do not have crushes towards other women. When it comes to being dominant, there is no difference between women and men for me. I do not know if I would be submissive towards a woman only because that situation has never presented itself. I do not believe I could feel submissive towards anyone.
I have only dated one man in my life, and the attraction was immediate. He is dominant with everyone but me. We are equals in all areas except one, and that is the bedroom. In the bedroom, I am in control, and he enjoys being under that control. I am not submissive to men I had tried when I was younger I could not appreciate the situation. We have a live-in girlfriend that we have dated for almost 15 years.
Recently, I wrote my first novella Times are Changing, of course, the main character is a strong young woman finding her sexuality. While I have many books planned they will always involve strong women taking control of their partners. I am writing the books that I wish I could have read when I was a younger woman trying to find my sexuality.