I have always enjoyed watching a man tease his cock in front of me. There is something powerful about sitting in a chair dressed in my heels and hose. Telling a man that he needs to stroke his cock slowly while I enjoy watching his face change shape. Bringing my man right up to the edge of orgasm only to tell him to move his attention to his testicles. The struggle as he wants to keep going knowing that will only make me upset. He wants to keep me happy so he makes the decision to do what I ask of him.
It is not just about me though I also like to watch a woman tease herself. With a woman, it is easier to control her orgasm unless she is like me. I have learned how to let my anticipation build inside so I can explode in orgasm when I desire. You can tell how much a person masturbates by how well they can control their own masturbation.
The playful side of masturbation is what I enjoy. I want to tease and deny until my playmate is begging to be allowed to explode all over. If they are a good boy or girl then I will probably allow that to happen. There have been times when I wanted to let someone orgasm but life would get in the way so they were left needing but unable to be satisfied. Sometimes I have to admit this can be a lot of fun in itself.
Some men enjoy being dominated by a woman who has no sexual interest in men at all. They enjoy the thought that the only joy they are bringing is the whimpers escaping their lips. This is a role play that takes a minute to unpack and understand. It is all about power exchange. In most BDSM play it is about having an orgasm of some kind at some point in the play time. If a man is truly craving denial then it might be a time when he enjoys having a woman who is completely not into his extra appendages.
I have played with the fantasy of this time and it can be a lot of fun. Especially when we utilize humiliation. There are a lot of fun things that can be said when I step in that portion of my bi brain. Those of you who know me understand that humor is a huge part of my play time. I enjoy being snarky and sarcastic in a fun maybe slightly mean way but with humor. When it comes to humiliating someone I like for there to be a basis of truth. Lesbian domination is being used by someone that you could never have.
I have started working on a new project that has me all excited. I have already partnered up with a couple of writers.
Goals of project
I am wanting to find erotic writers preferably ones that are self-publishing but also those that are just starting out. It can be someone that is making monies from their writing. I am also open to someone exploring their craft and have not made that decision if this is a fun hobby or something they want to monetize. This is about creating a circle of writers who help each other.
What I do NOT Want
I do not want this to be all about the “baby birds” one of the largest complaints I have heard from other authors is that when they try and showcase someone that person just does the buy my book, buy my friend’s book. I do not want this at all for this project.
What I Want
What I do want is to showcase the author and what the authors driving motivation to create works in this genre. I want to give authors some wonderful areas that they get attention over extended time. I want to showcase some of their work to a group of people that may have never found them otherwise.
How to make this happen
- Building a social media circle for erotic writers.
- Doing a mp3 of the author’s self-selected work to be distributed for free over the course of weeks.
- To give an author their own page on my blog as well as putting them in with a group of other authors that are being heavily marketed through social media.
Check out what has already has been done and if you are interested in joining please email me firstname.lastname@example.org. If you see something that might work better if done a different way please contact me. I am building this from the ground up so to some degree it is an experiment in motion. If you are an author just starting out and you want to participate but you have a limited number of books for sale. Please do not feel that you have to send me your money makers. Instead, sit down an evening and write a prequel or a tease of a sequel or perhaps write something about a supporting character. If you are struggling with what to do with your social media shoot me an email and I will send you a short tutorial to help you start to make that work better for you.
I talk to a number of guys about the concept of humiliation. Most of these men are successful in their daily lives. They have great jobs, families, and are over all balanced people. Almost all of them ask at some point ‘I do not know why I am into humiliation or why it turns me on so much’ If they have been in a situation where it was an ongoing humiliation they will often say something along the lines of I did not enjoy it while it was happening. Yet after they have been through this a couple of times they start to crave that. Of course, this is all about the chemical process in the brain. These stressful situations cause certain chemicals to be released by us. It is not the situation we crave but the natural high we get on the other side of it.
I have had a number of men tell me they start to need those feelings again. That the way they felt was better than most orgasms they have had sexual contact including masturbation. This makes sense to me because sex is mainly about the mental process and only a small portion of it is physical. With humiliation along with other submissive acts because we are in charge of the situation we do not have the guilt of what is happening to us. It almost frees someone to be allowed to enjoy something to a higher degree.
Someone like myself who enjoys being in charge of a what is happening has a deeper understanding of this process. If a person is doing this to another it is often done out of spite at least initially. No one likes to be shamed at least not the first time. It is not the shaming they want but the release they get from how the brain reacts to it. For myself, I always keep this in mind with Niteflirt play or other types of adult play. The build up is all about the mental portion at the end. The control of how that build up happens and the degree helps to determine the chemical dump at the end.
This is one of the reasons I try and get to know someone it helps me make their experience more intense. Humiliation is an area of sexuality where us being in different parts of the world works really well. The reason for this is due to how much of it is about tapping into something that has already occurred. Putting a person into that feeling they once had then helped them work back through that in a controlled way is also a healthy way to own a situation that once was extremely painful.
If humiliation is something that you think you might be interested in or if you just want to talk out a situation you do not talk about with others. Give me a call!
I am often asked if I prefer to be called a Mistress or a Goddess during play time. I have always thought of myself more of a Goddess than a Mistress. Here is why! I am a happy person I am not one to yell and scream. I enjoy being in control but do so with a smile on my face. I like someone who comes to me and wants to be submissive. That does not mean that I do not push the limitations and enjoy that. What I do not enjoy is someone who wants to be broken down. The Goddess aspect fits my personality. Body worship is something I enjoy telling my submissive to worship my round luscious bottom, my beautiful breasts, and all the other places.
A mistress to me seems to more about the professional side of this. I started this journey when I was in my teens and for me, it is a journey that changes every day. I enjoy talking on the phone but I have no desire to meet strangers in person for this type of play. It is my special time to let myself be the aggressive and seductive parts.
My personal experience has shown me that those who want to be submissive respond in positive ways to my friendly fun style. I can be assertive when I need to be but I have no desire to be mean to someone just to be nasty. I enjoy humiliation play my style though is done with a sweet smile while I humiliate a man completely. Cock and Ball Torture (CBT) is also an area that is fun for me. Tying up a man’s cock and balls while I sit on his face is a great way to spend an evening. Putting a man into a cock cage while I pleasure myself brings me a delight. Especially when a man can not control his erection and that cage gets smaller and smaller.
Goddess worship is the only way for me to go. I want a submissive that enjoys having a great time. I do a lot of the things that a Mistress does I just come at things from a different point.
This is one of my most popular fantasies that I hear from you guys. There is just something about having a woman find something out about you and then use that against you in ways you never expected. For those of you that do not know sissy feminization is basically about a woman turning you into not just a girl but a very feminine girly boy. This is more about the process than about sexuality. It does not generally involve another man. Most of the men that are involved in this type of fantasy want to feel that control is being taken from them. The more they try to get out of it the worse the situation becomes.
I generally start out with talking about some of the things running through a person’s mind. I like to work from where they are and take it to levels beyond their wildest dream. I never have a way of doing a call. It is hard for me to create a world with nothing to go from. A little bit of honesty while it might be difficult to do, does wonder on the back side. It gives me a general idea of the things that are you into and the things that you are NOT into.
Fantasy is a great thing in that we can take it where your mind wants it to go. If left up to me I will more than likely take you down a road that you did not want to go. I have been playing role play since I was in my teens. I enjoy things that a lot of men do not like and sometimes vice versa.
Feminization is almost always about the process of changing from all clothing that is masculine to those that are very girly. Rarely, do I talk to a man that is into wearing yoga pants. They all want panties and silky material. Most want to wear everything that screams soft sexy lady. Bras, panties, thigh highs, short slutty dress and of course high heels. Most men want to be uncomfortable they enjoy that feeling of being out of their comfort zone.
Makeup is almost always an important part of the setting. It can be as simple as red lipstick. Nothing screams naughty girl like bright red lipstick. As the fantasy progresses generally the level of makeup goes with it. Maybe we talk about sexy cat eyes or maybe we go all the way out and discuss false eyelashes.
Wherever your sissy feminization fantasy is at I would greatly enjoy helping you discover your limitations or perhaps completely destroy them.
People by nature will always react to a situation differently. Also, some of us are lifestyles while others are professionals. There is a huge difference between how the two will behave and expect others to behave. I may not a sadist I do not enjoy inflicting harm on people that I care for. I could easily hurt someone that I have little to no feelings for. I want a submissive that craves to be my good boy/girl I want them to desire more than anything to please me in every way. I do not want to be a drill Sargent I expect my submissive to learn my subtle cues and react to them and even before them. While I enjoy cbt (cock and ball tease/torture) it is not because I want to cause pain I want my submissive to have an intense orgasm that I have complete control over. I do enjoy humiliation if the other person is into it. I have no desire to cause someone mental harm just to gain a few minutes of pleasure from it. Spanking for me is part of a huge picture of submissive/dominant engagement. I am not into just spanking to spank. I greatly enjoy spanking a bottom and then gently touching it to make it feel very nice. There are women out there who would never have sex with a submissive and that is their thing. For me I enjoy using my submissives cock if it is something that will bring me pleasure. I like a well built relationship that extends beyond the bedroom and control that comes with subtle-ness. A raised eyebrow sends my submissive scampering to me. A touch on the arm stops them right where they are. Dedicating their every free moment to giving me what I strongly desire. I want my submissives working hard to fulfill their own dreams though. I get bored with people that do not have a driving force. To me submissives are equal and they choose to make their Mistress/Master as happy as they can. They want to be there. They are not forced to do anything pleasing eagerly brings them the most pleasure. Mistress/Masters are all unique in what they desire just as submissives are driven by their individual desires.
The story behind the video I was in walmart picking up some last minute items. Disclaimer (I am not Christian I come from a very long line of what is considered pagan. I am native american). So I see this guy in a tank top it is a nasty day. He is wearing what looks like from a distance is a tye dye shirt. He looks emotionally beaten but harmless. I am a very good judge of people. I dont think too much about him and I move forward with my shopping. I am standing in line and a Sheriff Deputy walks up behind me. I smile at her and she smiles back. She starts talking to someone and I turn around. It is that guy. I then see he is COVERED in blood. He has a nasty looking cut on his head that is seeping blood. She is talking to him being very nice. She asks him what happened to him. He tells her he just walked from the hospital about two miles away and he is buying clothes. She asks how he got hurt and he tells her he was in a car accident. She asks him if an officer worked the accident. He hands her the accident report and I see the discharge papers in his cart. This store is PACKED with Christians this is their holiday. I would normally reach out to someone and offer them money but I am strapped right now. Be kind I am not saying give money to panhandlers I would never do that. I have bought a lot of dinners, a lot of groceries, a lot of diapers throughout the years.
I get asked every day how can I do a skype call with you? I do not use paypal and never will. There are a number of reasons why the biggest being that paypal does not want those type of transactions going through them. However, I do understand that not everyone wants to have an “adult” site showing up on their bank statements. I wanted to share a number of ways that I have decided on to do skype calls. First off I am $1.50 a min no matter what service used. This just makes everyone’s life easier. I am not concerned about a site taking their cut that is just part of life anymore. I honestly do not give it much thought. My skype username is msdianecallaway
Lets start out with my main ones that I prefer the first in Niteflirt I have been with this company since 2008. They are a stable company with a well known name. They will show up on your bank statement as nfservices. If you want to only use skype you will have to do a prepaid show. You need to always contact me on skype before paying just to make sure I am completely available.
Skyprivate is made for skype calls. You can do a direct call through skype using this service or prepaid call through skyprivate.
Now lets talk about other ways to pay. I have recently added indie pay you can use visa, mastercard, discovery, diners club. This allows you to have a number of different ways to pay. It will not show up as an adult service on your credit card.
I also offer giftrocket it is very simple to use you just use my email address email@example.com and it is very safe. I can NEVER see your real name or your banking information. You can use this link to send through this service here:
I do not care for amazon and really do not utilize their services much. However if that is your only means then you can send me a gift card to firstname.lastname@example.org.
In an attempt to make some money for law school and keep things fun. I am doing what you all have begged for years running. This is a limited thing once they are gone they are gone. Unless I choose to tease you again. LOL Here is the deal I have ten pair of panties. They will be worn for a few days, I will do pictures in them and a short 5 min (ish) movie. It will all be dedicated to YOU! Never used anywhere else your own thing. The rules are simple first come first serve. Pay first. You have to have an address for me to send these too. I know seems like a no brainer. These are only mine Diane Callaway! I will remove them as they sell.
This is the only pair of Victoria Secrets I have for sale.