When I first started on the internet the only exposure I had received from feminization was a friend who had went through gender transition surgery. After a few years, I was introduced to forced feminization. I had never thought of creating a situation where a man had his masculinity stripped away and replaced with female attributes. Once I found out that men were indeed into this, it was something I wanted to explore further. I have been dominant my entire life. Sexually I started studying my different kinks when I moved out. I thought I knew a lot about kinks it surprised me when I did not know about feminization. I am tactile by nature it is easy to understand why a man would be attracted to the silky things women wear. For some men it is all about the fabric from satin to nylon pantyhose it heightens their arousal. Some men are into power exchange having a woman take full control over them. A lot of men are taught at a young age to not wear girl things. When a man is put in a position with a woman in which she takes full control over him that can be exciting in a level they never dreamed possible.
Feminization, while varied from person to person, is often about power exchange. For me, feminization is about taking a man and turning him into something he never saw himself as being. It is about the little things the catch of his breath when he decides to submit to my deviant desires. The look of terror on his face when he is stripped of everything that made him manly and placed into that first pair of panties. I want a man that would never do this on his own. His desire for feminization comes from the intense need to please me. I am not into breaking someone through force that is something that bores me. I want a man who yearns to give me his submission. Feminization is about taking control and giving a man an adventure he may have never thought of.
Some men want to be feminized I enjoy talking to them we share a lot of the same thoughts. When it comes to real life playmates, I want the man who never thought he would find himself where he is. It is about taking someone beyond their thoughts and into a world only I can give them. I have just done this in person a few times and all those times have created memories that I would never change. Pulling a person out of a comfort zone is something part of being dominant. It is fun to dress a man up in outrageous outfits then make him wear them is a significant part of the feminization adventure. High heels and lipstick take on a special meaning when it comes to learning how to use them.
I wanted to check in with everyone. The end of June picked up speed and before I knew it was poof gone. Not all of my goals came to fruition that is okay that is why they are goals. I did get some podcasts made I will be posting those probably today. I did not get my second part of the Raven Hills Chronicles completed (bad me) I will be working on that this week. I also have some other projects to complete. In the next couple of days, I will get the calendar for July put up. The problem I have with mp3’s is that is HOT here like 100 degrees at 10 am hot. The only place I have to record is my car. Outside is way too loud with the critters always making noise and inside there is the hum of the ac which is a lot louder on the recording than in real time. My car is super hot very quickly, and I am not a 6 am riser. I did make some progress the other day which always motivates me. I am also doing a lot of work around the house there are only so many hours in the day, and they have to go somewhere. I am happy with the progress that occurred in June overall. We had a great month in so many ways. In the past, we have always done the total work on all projects which meant putting a ton of time into them. During May we decided we were going to hire a crew to come to pour a significant slab of concrete. It was so worth it. They did such a great job that we are bringing them back out this month to pour a concrete floor in a building we built and help us finish the outside of it. As we get older what makes us super happy changes drastically. We need this building the car projects are all at a standstill. We just can not do any more on them without a hard pad. Being self-employed has its disadvantages in that we wear all the hats. (Sometimes wearing all the hats is a significant advantage though.) Hope you have a beautiful Summer or Winter where ever you are in the world.
I am a lifestyler, so that means I have done both real play and role play. Real play and role play are both fun and sexually stimulating. Humans need the mental aspect of sexuality. The physical point of being touched by someone is not what creates an intense orgasm. It is the tease that builds up the intensity of how we react to a partner. Humans are complicated yet simple. Think about the first time you were involved in a sexual interaction. Most of us have a long time of trying to get from one aspect of sexuality to another. The whole baseball comparison of first base, second base, and the home run it cliche but explains the tease/denial aspect. I have had people tell me there is no connection between role play and real play that is untrue. I have had a real play that was disappointing. There has been roleplaying over the years in which the orgasm was intense. It is the interaction of the people involved and how much they invest into the situation that determines its outcome.
Read an article on marriage and ti will tell people that sex gets better for people involved in a relationship. Being in a relationship can be great, or it can be horrid. Over the years people have told me they do not share the kinks with their partner about the intriguing fantasies they have. I would not want to be with someone I could not open up to. If a person is in a relationship that offers sexual exploration, then it would be great for sexuality. If a person feels the need to hide certain parts of who they are then they will withdraw from the relationship and sexuality will suffer. It is not necessary for my mind to have a romantic relationship to have a sexual relationship. I have played with several people over the years who I enjoyed but would not have wanted to spend every day in the company of.
When it comes to role play (I am defining this as two people in two different locations in this instance) in my experience, this can be just as wonderful if not more so than real play. Over the years I have talked to some fun individuals even though we were hundred if not thousand of miles our play time proved to be sexually stimulating. After being around human sexuality of people, I do not have an intimate daily relationship with I have discovered there can be role play that is intense. I have some people that I have talked to for over eleven years they have shared with me intimate, deep parts of their life. I know more about them then their stream of significant other through all that time. While we may not have the daily connection due to our strict relationship limited by circumstances the understanding of sexuality is intense. Most of the time these fetishes are innocent. A lot of men are into panties, pantyhose, being tied up, or different roles where women are in control. I enjoy hearing about them, and it saddens me in a lot of ways to think they do not have a level of comfort to share. Explore the parts of yourself even if you are not sure how it will be received understand that many have already traveled that road. Be yourself be open and surround yourself with people who adore you for you, not for your sexuality.
Everyone asks me when I found out I was dominant and the answer to the question is there was never a time in my life I was not dominant. Even as a young child I would take control of a situation. Being dominant in any given case came naturally to me. As I grew into a teenager I was never a swooning teenager at no point did I have boy bands decorating my walls. My whole life books were an essential part of who I was. I would read anything that presented itself including romance novels. The submissive women in the stories annoyed me. I always wanted to be the dominant one. If you have never read women romance novels, they are the same setup. There is a strong man that the women could never be with they are thrown together in some form of sexual encounter. The man gives the lead heroine a night she can always remember life breaks them apart and then by the end of the novel they are thrown back together. The couple is expected to live happily ever after.
Even growing up I had issues with how the girls around me viewed sexuality. Commitment and love were different than sex for me; I expect far more from my partner in life than I demand from a sexual playmate. The first time I felt an attraction towards women came early for me. I did not realize it at the time it was going on. First I thought all girls felt that way towards other women. Even at this age, I remain unconvinced that women do not have crushes towards other women. When it comes to being dominant, there is no difference between women and men for me. I do not know if I would be submissive towards a woman only because that situation has never presented itself. I do not believe I could feel submissive towards anyone.
I have only dated one man in my life, and the attraction was immediate. He is dominant with everyone but me. We are equals in all areas except one, and that is the bedroom. In the bedroom, I am in control, and he enjoys being under that control. I am not submissive to men I had tried when I was younger I could not appreciate the situation. We have a live-in girlfriend that we have dated for almost 15 years.
Recently, I wrote my first novella Times are Changing, of course, the main character is a strong young woman finding her sexuality. While I have many books planned they will always involve strong women taking control of their partners. I am writing the books that I wish I could have read when I was a younger woman trying to find my sexuality.
I recently graduated from college with another degree during my stay to finish off this degree the opportunity presented that I could hang out with some frat boys. Through the years I have been around many present and past frat boys. Dressing up as women is often a punishment or hazing that men use against each other. One of the characters I am working on is a girl who comes from the midwest. She is pulled into a situation that involves teaching frat boy a lesson about how being a woman is not as easy as he believes it to be. I have a friend Kylie Gable who came to be under the control of some women due to inappropriate young man behavior. Through listening to the things these women did to Kylie, it made me wonder what it was like from the woman’s side.
Lindsey my character came out of those stories, the frat boys I had met over the years and my adventures. She is a young midwest girl thrown into a California University. The rudeness of the boys surrounding her is not something she handles well. At first, she tries to be careful about everything, but after awhile she gets to the end of her patience.
Frat boys are like all men they enjoy a woman who is controlling most respond best to sensual domination rather than someone who yells at them. Over the years I have noticed a lot of men starting out in college enjoy being placed in a feminine situation as long as it not in their control to be there. The games their brothers play on them of having to wear clothing that is considered female while meant to be degrading are often empowering for later years. Some men throughout the years have told me their feminine adventures started with events that happened in high school and college. Panties and bras are often the starting points that take humiliated frat boys to the next step in the adventure.
Frat boys would never let on to the men they live with that the feel of women’s clothing is not humiliating but something that turns them on. When men are young, it is common for them to purchase outfits then purge them out of a range of emotions. When I was young, I could never understand why men of their late teens and early twenties would go along with having to wear clothing while their friends made fun of them. Now that I am older it is understandable that the humiliation is a sexual turn on. The dress is part of the process that causes an adrenaline rush. While most frat boys probably do not think about the situation creating a sexual rush for their buddies in the end sometimes that is the result of hazing.
A little about me. I am in my forties and probably more happy now than I have ever been at any other point in my life. I live on 15 acres with my husband and our girlfriend of 15 years Chilly Hicks. I have never been a city girl the thought of crowds stress me out. We started our first business in 2007 at that time I was not sure how I or others would react to us working in the adult industry. Through the years I have learned a lot. First off women like myself who work in the adult industry are some of the smartest, toughest women one could meet. We build a business teach ourselves everything and take a lot of crap that we should never have to deal with. Second, off I have met some awesome people in generally sure there are jerks, but you get that everywhere. Third I am dominant I can not play the submissive, and I can not deal with subjects I do not enjoy.
Writing for me has always been comfortable in high school I was one of those people that wrote term papers for extra cash. There were more than a few jocks who would not have graduated if it was not for me. I had never written fiction before starting my own business. It started out with writing scripts from mp3 or shorts for other works we were producing. About four years ago I decided I wanted to start writing in erotica. There were things in the way of that, and the timing was not right. I wanted to finish off a degree first, so I went back to school took the classes I needed and some creative writing classes. I started on some story ideas during this time but did not get a lot finished. Now I am free to write what I want and how I want.
I am a reader of course and have read a lot of things that are self-published. There is a considerable amount of hard to read and follow writing out there. I want to publish real stories with strong women as the main character. My main goal is to write something that makes you the reader want to read more. There needs to be a connection with the main character or maybe a side character without that connection there is no desire to come back for more. When it comes to the erotic scenes, I have read a number of the same things you have I understand that writers tend to speed through them. We read erotica for the graphic nature and spending time during that interaction makes the work something we want to revisit.
I hope that you will join me on this journey. Feel free to interact with me and offer suggestions. Our lives should always be based on growing who we are and exploring what we enjoy.
This last year has been hectic at best. I went back to school and finished off my bachelor’s degree. I am taking off this next year to get ready for some wonderful changes coming to my life. In that time you will see some great things coming here. In a lot of ways what I do online is relaxing and rewarding. I have met some wonderful people who have been with me for a long time. I am working with some great friends including Kylie Gable to start publishing my own erotic stories. I have wanted to do this for a long time and now I am ready to take the plunge so to say. For those of you that talk to me online, you know that creating a scene is my favorite part. I know we have been just coasting for awhile it was necessary for me to get to the place in life where I am currently at. I will also be online a lot more than I have been which is a great thing. My plan is to start working on our blog and store this week. We have a number of movies to share with everyone. So stop by say Hi! Join me on twitter @dianecallaway and feel free to shoot me an email if you like. email@example.com
I have always enjoyed watching a man tease his cock in front of me. There is something powerful about sitting in a chair dressed in my heels and hose. Telling a man that he needs to stroke his cock slowly while I enjoy watching his face change shape. Bringing my man right up to the edge of orgasm only to tell him to move his attention to his testicles. The struggle as he wants to keep going knowing that will only make me upset. He wants to keep me happy so he makes the decision to do what I ask of him.
It is not just about me though I also like to watch a woman tease herself. With a woman, it is easier to control her orgasm unless she is like me. I have learned how to let my anticipation build inside so I can explode in orgasm when I desire. You can tell how much a person masturbates by how well they can control their own masturbation.
The playful side of masturbation is what I enjoy. I want to tease and deny until my playmate is begging to be allowed to explode all over. If they are a good boy or girl then I will probably allow that to happen. There have been times when I wanted to let someone orgasm but life would get in the way so they were left needing but unable to be satisfied. Sometimes I have to admit this can be a lot of fun in itself.
Some men enjoy being dominated by a woman who has no sexual interest in men at all. They enjoy the thought that the only joy they are bringing is the whimpers escaping their lips. This is a role play that takes a minute to unpack and understand. It is all about power exchange. In most BDSM play it is about having an orgasm of some kind at some point in the play time. If a man is truly craving denial then it might be a time when he enjoys having a woman who is completely not into his extra appendages.
I have played with the fantasy of this time and it can be a lot of fun. Especially when we utilize humiliation. There are a lot of fun things that can be said when I step in that portion of my bi brain. Those of you who know me understand that humor is a huge part of my play time. I enjoy being snarky and sarcastic in a fun maybe slightly mean way but with humor. When it comes to humiliating someone I like for there to be a basis of truth. Lesbian domination is being used by someone that you could never have.
I have started working on a new project that has me all excited. I have already partnered up with a couple of writers.
Goals of project
I am wanting to find erotic writers preferably ones that are self-publishing but also those that are just starting out. It can be someone that is making monies from their writing. I am also open to someone exploring their craft and have not made that decision if this is a fun hobby or something they want to monetize. This is about creating a circle of writers who help each other.
What I do NOT Want
I do not want this to be all about the “baby birds” one of the largest complaints I have heard from other authors is that when they try and showcase someone that person just does the buy my book, buy my friend’s book. I do not want this at all for this project.
What I Want
What I do want is to showcase the author and what the authors driving motivation to create works in this genre. I want to give authors some wonderful areas that they get attention over extended time. I want to showcase some of their work to a group of people that may have never found them otherwise.
How to make this happen
- Building a social media circle for erotic writers.
- Doing a mp3 of the author’s self-selected work to be distributed for free over the course of weeks.
- To give an author their own page on my blog as well as putting them in with a group of other authors that are being heavily marketed through social media.
Check out what has already has been done and if you are interested in joining please email me firstname.lastname@example.org. If you see something that might work better if done a different way please contact me. I am building this from the ground up so to some degree it is an experiment in motion. If you are an author just starting out and you want to participate but you have a limited number of books for sale. Please do not feel that you have to send me your money makers. Instead, sit down an evening and write a prequel or a tease of a sequel or perhaps write something about a supporting character. If you are struggling with what to do with your social media shoot me an email and I will send you a short tutorial to help you start to make that work better for you.