Category Archives: Fetishes

Humiliation

I talk to a number of guys about the concept of humiliation. Most of these men are successful in their daily lives.  They have great jobs, families, and are over all balanced people. Almost all of them ask at some point ‘I do not know why I am into humiliation or why it turns me on so much’ If they have been in a situation where it was an ongoing humiliation they will often say something along the lines of I did not enjoy it while it was happening. Yet after they have been through this a couple of times they start to crave that. Of course, this is all about the chemical process in the brain. These stressful situations cause certain chemicals to be released by us. It is not the situation we crave but the natural high we get on the other side of it.

I have had a number of men tell me they start to need those feelings again. That the way they felt was better than most orgasms they have had sexual contact including masturbation. This makes sense to me because sex is mainly about the mental process and only a small portion of it is physical. With humiliation along with other submissive acts because we are in charge of the situation we do not have the guilt of what is happening to us. It almost frees someone to be allowed to enjoy something to a higher degree.

Someone like myself who enjoys being in charge of a what is happening has a deeper understanding of this process.  If a person is doing this to another it is often done out of spite at least initially. No one likes to be shamed at least not the first time. It is not the shaming they want but the release they get from how the brain reacts to it. For myself, I always keep this in mind with Niteflirt play or other types of adult play. The build up is all about the mental portion at the end. The control of how that build up happens and the degree helps to determine the chemical dump at the end.

This is one of the reasons I try and get to know someone it helps me make their experience more intense. Humiliation is an area of sexuality where us being in different parts of the world works really well. The reason for this is due to how much of it is about tapping into something that has already occurred. Putting a person into that feeling they once had then helped them work back through that in a controlled way is also a healthy way to own a situation that once was extremely painful.

If humiliation is something that you think you might be interested in or if you just want to talk out a situation you do not talk about with others. Give me a call!

 

Bondage Wrestling

Bondage wresting is something I honestly knew nothing about till about six months ago. I had a caller ask me if I had ever heard of it nope not at all. He then sent me a few youtube links to take a quick peek at. I can understand why a lot of guys and girls would be interested in it. For those that are not familiar with it the concept is pretty simple. It starts out like any other wrestling except for two very important items put in the ring. These can be traditional metal handcuffs, plastic zip strips or more commonly two pieces of rope. The whole point is to get your opponent tied up and immobilize them. After that it can become any number of scenarios. It can just be a fun time of tag your it. There can be a bit of female on male domination which is what I hear more about. I know a lot of guys have a fantasy of a woman over powering them. There is also a lot of guys that are into having a woman “beat them up” while this can go to the extreme of drawing blood or just being banged around till they give up. While most of the time bondage wrestling has limitations to what can and can not be done in some ways this makes it safer for a man who wants to explore this side of his sexuality. A lot of times there is no hard core sexual contact but in most bdsm it is not the end game that is important to someone. The buildup is far more sexually gratifying because it lasts for an extended amount of time. I have talked to a number of men who were in real life situations where women over powered them and those are where their fantasies go again and again. If you want to explore your need to be tied and teased we can explore that together.

Forced Bi

You may have noticed that forced bi has left a lot of girls descriptions. That is due to a lot fo sites making us take those words down. I have played with bi play for almost twenty years now. I enjoy having a man do things for me that he would not do on his own. Forced bi is just a search term that makes it easy for men to find women who enjoy taking control of a situation. They look for a woman that will treat them in a way that makes them want to push their boundaries. In all reality, you can not force someone to do something of this nature without their wanting to be there at some level.

It is not about being homosexual it is about being pushed into a situation that is uncomfortable. That unsettled feeling is a huge turn on for a number of people. The butterfly’s they get in their stomach as they realize they are going to do something for someone they would never do on their own. They want to please the woman in every way. Submission is giving of one’s self completely over to another. It is also about trust. Forced bi situations are all about trust. There is nothing more destructive than a person giving themselves in ways they never would other wise, and then having someone use those actions against them. I have spoken to men over the years who’s girlfriends would turn these instances against them in very cutting ways.

I want a person who gives themselves to me and does what I ask when I desire it. I do not want to force someone in a physcial way I enjoy the mental play between partners. I desire to have a man that goes above and beyond to give me parts of himself that he has never given someone else. The more uncomfortable he the more fulfilled I am.

Sissy Feminization

This is one of my most popular fantasies that I hear from you guys. There is just something about having a woman find something out about you and then use that against you in ways you never expected. For those of you that do not know sissy feminization is basically about a woman turning you into not just a girl but a very feminine girly boy. This is more about the process than about sexuality. It does not generally involve another man. Most of the men that are involved in this type of fantasy want to feel that control is being taken from them. The more they try to get out of it the worse the situation becomes.

I generally start out with talking about some of the things running through a person’s mind. I like to work from where they are and take it to levels beyond their wildest dream. I never have a way of doing a call. It is hard for me to create a world with nothing to go from. A little bit of honesty while it might be difficult to do, does wonder on the back side. It gives me a general idea of the things that are you into and the things that you are NOT into.

Fantasy is a great thing in that we can take it where your mind wants it to go. If left up to me I will more than likely take you down a road that you did not want to go. I have been playing role play since I was in my teens. I enjoy things that a lot of men do not like and sometimes vice versa.

Feminization is almost always about the process of changing from all clothing that is masculine to those that are very girly. Rarely, do I talk to a man that is into wearing yoga pants. They all want panties and silky material. Most want to wear everything that screams soft sexy lady.  Bras, panties, thigh highs, short slutty dress and of course high heels. Most men want to be uncomfortable they enjoy that feeling of being out of their comfort zone.

Makeup is almost always an important part of the setting. It can be as simple as red lipstick. Nothing screams naughty girl like bright red lipstick. As the fantasy progresses generally the level of makeup goes with it. Maybe we talk about sexy cat eyes or maybe we go all the way out and discuss false eyelashes.

Wherever your sissy feminization fantasy is at I would greatly enjoy helping you discover your limitations or perhaps completely destroy them.

Cum Eating Instructions

Cum eating instructions is one of the top things that I hear about on a phone sex call. There are a lot of guys who think about and wonder what their cum tastes like. They generally want to be made by a woman to clean up after themselves. The conversation for a person who has never done this is generally the same. He will say something along the lines of he has thought about it alot and when he is worked up he really wants to go through with it. However, as soon as he gets off and has his sperm all over his fingers he just can not follow through with the act. He wants someone to make him do it at that very moment between when he ejaculates and when those hormones are subsiding. This is really hard to do when you are on the phone with someone but very easy to do when you are in the room with them. Sometimes it is about cuckolding but most the time it is just a curiosity or a power exchange that the men are craving. I have often heard that when a man tried to go down on a woman after he has orgasmed inside her she will refuse to let him. I truly wish these women knew the power of having a man go down on them and clean them after such an intense orgasm. A woman can create a relationship with a man that puts her in a control situation that he craves and desires more than anything. This type of relationship is not the same as telling someone to do something and they begrudgingly do it. For some men it is about true power exchange they do not want to taste their sperm and in a lot of cases truly dislike the way it tastes. What these men are craving is the feeling of being made to do something they do not want to do, yet the complete the act because they want to make the woman happy. They would never consume their own ejaculation by themselves they have no desire to do that. There is a small group of men though that do crave the taste of cum in their mouths they will consume it because they like the thought of it on their tongue. The majority of these men are to some degree bisexual in a lot of cases what they truly want is another man’s cum but are too afraid to go after it or they want to be made to do so by a woman.
What about you have you ever thought about consuming another man’s cum? If so what was your desire stemming from, tell me in the comments below.

Electric Play

Electric play is one of those things that people tend to automatically think of the worse case scenario. There is a broad spectrum to electric play which can be enjoyed a numerous levels. Like most play you need to be with someone who is trust able and will not push you well beyond your limits. A little tweaking above your current limit in anything can be fun. Most people start out with something like the tens machine. This is that little machine you often get after you have had a surgery to help your nerves in the healing process. It can be used to stimulate the skin in a minor way almost like an electric caress or it can be used to really get your attention. The tens machine is generally safe for most people. It is not going to cause any permanent damage and it has built in safety features because it is primarily designed to be a medical device. There are also a large number of glass wands sold for electric play which in a darkened room can be a beautiful as they are jolting. Anything glass is subject to break so care must be taken when playing with these. In the last couple of years a new trend has emerged with vibrators that also give jolts of electricity. While electricity can be dangerous with most these devices it is very safe and adds a layer of uncertainty to a play period. For the novice just starting out all play should stay below the heart of the person who is receiving the stimulation. Someone who has experience and is very well versed in the safety measures can play in other parts of the body. There is a lot of surface below the heart so finding an interesting place to apply electricity should be easy and fun. There are certain things to remember with electricity it is not the volts that cause the damage it is the amps. Volts is the force of the electricity while amps is the amount. The higher the amps the more dangerous it is to the systems of the body. Most reputable devices sold for electric play are well below the spectrum of harm.
When it comes to phone sex and internet play most of the time guys are wanting to have some fun with their testicles or shaft. I have done a number of electric play sessions over the years generally with a tens machine. It is easy for me to have them set the intensity and duration while we talk and it can be changed in an instant to accommodate where we want the play session to progress too. If this is something you are interested in pick up a tens machine and give it a try. Even if you are not into pain the lower thresholds can produce unique sensations that you have never experienced before. Have you ever played with electricity, if so did you enjoy it or was it too intense for your liking? Tell me in the comments below.

Chastity

Chastity for me is generally of the male kind. I have a growing collection of cock cages from plastic to my favorite kind of metal. I know the metal ones look like something out of a medieval torture chamber but I am told they are far more comfortable for long term wear then the plastic ones. For some men there is this huge draw to have a woman fully control their orgasms and even if they are allowed to touch their penises at all.  Some men have a hard time understanding why a man would give a woman this type of control. Especially when it comes to metal cages that require more than a pair of wire cutters to remove. This type of relationship requires a level of trust that a lot of relationships never achieve. That is part of what I enjoy of chastity. There is something very intimate about having your key around my neck so that when I bend over to whisper in your ear it brushes against your skin. My special lock looks like a regular pendant that a large number of women wear. Most people would never suspect that I actually hold your cock in between my fingers while I play with my key. You know it though and it is a huge turn on to have me there there flirting with you. We both have a secret that no one knows about. The harder you get the more you feel the control I have over you. I know you crave to take me outside and pin me against the wall with your throbbing cock. However, that will not happen because I control every part of your manly anatomy. If you put yourself in this scenario you can begin to understand why a man might start to have a fantasy of sensual control. Cock cages are often used in cuckolding fantasies and scenes. It adds to the whole feeling of giving up control to another man and being less of a man. For some men that have issues with ongoing masturbation a cock cage can be used to help break the habit side of this. Having to ask permission from a woman that enjoys the control can be healthy. As in all situations someone that is out to be vicious or mean is never acceptable. Like with all bdsm role plays mutual respect is mandatory.

Inflatable Toy Fetish

 

Inflatables is a recent fetish that I have been introduced to it started with balloons which we started doing for a few viewers. Balloons were a lot of fun and someone mentioned to us that they enjoyed inflatables.  I like these fun fetishes and so I started asking people that I knew were into it what they found appealing about it. They said the feel, the smell, the sounds made.  They like to watch a woman ride an inflatable.  When I started with this it was with a raft that one of our viewers sent us and it was FUN! Blowing it up and then squeezing it rubbing it all over. The whole process was just a blast to have a lot of fun with.  I have not played with bursting inflatables as most my guys are not into this and my collection is very small at this time. I am sure there will come a time when I expand into that form of the fetish.  One of the things that I have been asked for a lot is the inflatable suits but these things are super expensive.

I can understand the feel of the inflatables because they do feel good against the skin and if you add water or oil they become super slick.  The smell of the inflatables actually comes from the deteriation of the product they are made of. As they break down chemically they emit a specific smell.  It is a lot of fun to blow these toys up and then rub them all over my skin.

If you are into inflatables please tell me all about it in the comments below. What got you into the fetish? What is the biggest turn on for you? What kinds of things you would really like to see start catching on with the internet.

Encasement In Pantyhose And Nylons

 

There is a number of people who are very much into the feel of nylons. It is not about just the wearing of them they are into the smell, feel, and tightness of the fabric.  This is a fetish that is found in both men and women.  It can be a part of bondage but it does not necessarily have to be. The fabric itself is the pull of this fetish. To  feel that nylon all over every inch of their skin is a turn on for many people. For some though it has an almost calming effect for them.  This is something that happens with people who enjoy tight spaces. That feeling of not being able to mover or escape helps them to center their thinking and to control their emotions.  Nylon encasement can be across many acpects of fetish there is not a one size fits all. Some are all about the silky fabric nylons are very smooth if you touch them one way if they are true nylons then if you rub the the other way they can be very rough. The nylon industry has added such things as spandex and Lycra to make their product last longer and to feel silkier. For some people they really enjoy the way the blended fabrics others will wear nothing but 100% nylon. For someone that is into total encasement they generally create their own nylon outfits they want to have them super tight and to cover every inch of their skin. It feels so wonderful to them to have no skin showing and every time they move the only thing they feel is nylon on nylon.

When I first was introduced to this fetish many years ago I thought it was all men. Now as the years have progressed I have found that there are lot more women into it but they are not as expressive about the fetish as the men can be. This is a complete tactile it is all about the touch with the minor components coming into it but not leading the fetish. This is generally a fetish that is indulged into alone but it can be implemented into a play session between a dominant and a submissive. It can also be used as a punishment for the complete opposite side of this for those that extremely dislike the feel of nylon. I have played with nylon encasement through the years. There are a number of callers that enjoy having someone to just talk to about their favorite brand or how it fits. They enjoy having someone see them in their outfits without being judged.

 

Tell me about your experience withe encasement in the comments below.

Crush Foot Fetish

We are all familiar with crushing grapes as a way to make wine. For a number of foot fetish guys and girls this is not the only kind of crushing that is a lot of fun. I enjoy having my feet worshiped.  I had not been introduced to the whole crushing fetish until after I started on the internet. Now I do not believe in killing anything for entertainment. Killing anything alive is not okay to me and yes that does include bugs. I do enjoy the food stuff though.

Taking a cake and smashing it under my feet to have it licked off by my submissive is just a lot of fun to me. I have always enjoyed the feel of things going between my toes. Of course I started out with mud. What person does not enjoy the feel of mud or clay squishing slowly between their toes. It just feels so wonderful that I go barefoot as much as I can. When I got older and when I started online I got introduced to cakes.  Which are awesome especially if you have someone to lick off all the parts that are left. I had someone on Niteflirt suggest I try a creme cake. Which I did and while that is an expensive habit to start it certainly feels wonderful on the toes.

I kind of did things backwards when it comes to crushing. I didn’t play with fruits until much later on like only in the last couple of years. There is just something sensual and wicked about shopping for things in a grocery store that you know you are going to use in sexual fun.  Picking out those tomatoes, strawberries, bananas, oranges as well as all the other things that just happen to catch my eye. Taking them home and having my foot slave lick up ever drop they leave behind is a wonderful way to spend an evening.