People by nature will always react to a situation differently. Also, some of us are lifestyles while others are professionals. There is a huge difference between how the two will behave and expect others to behave. I may not a sadist I do not enjoy inflicting harm on people that I care for. I could easily hurt someone that I have little to no feelings for. I want a submissive that craves to be my good boy/girl I want them to desire more than anything to please me in every way. I do not want to be a drill Sargent I expect my submissive to learn my subtle cues and react to them and even before them. While I enjoy cbt (cock and ball tease/torture) it is not because I want to cause pain I want my submissive to have an intense orgasm that I have complete control over. I do enjoy humiliation if the other person is into it. I have no desire to cause someone mental harm just to gain a few minutes of pleasure from it. Spanking for me is part of a huge picture of submissive/dominant engagement. I am not into just spanking to spank. I greatly enjoy spanking a bottom and then gently touching it to make it feel very nice. There are women out there who would never have sex with a submissive and that is their thing. For me I enjoy using my submissives cock if it is something that will bring me pleasure. I like a well built relationship that extends beyond the bedroom and control that comes with subtle-ness. A raised eyebrow sends my submissive scampering to me. A touch on the arm stops them right where they are. Dedicating their every free moment to giving me what I strongly desire. I want my submissives working hard to fulfill their own dreams though. I get bored with people that do not have a driving force. To me submissives are equal and they choose to make their Mistress/Master as happy as they can. They want to be there. They are not forced to do anything pleasing eagerly brings them the most pleasure. Mistress/Masters are all unique in what they desire just as submissives are driven by their individual desires.