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From Tongue-Tied to Temptress in 30 minutes or less…

How to Use “Dirty Dialogue” as
Your Personal Secret Weapon to Erotically Charge Your Language … Confidently Explore Your Fantasies … and Program

His Body

to Crave YOU (& Only You)

For as Long as Your Heart Desires!

If you are a woman that wants to talk dirty to a guy,

but you don’t know what to say or how to say it…

Yet deep down you just wish to EXPRESS

your sensuality in a way that makes it

FUN & mutually SATISFYING at any age…

Then This Is The Most Important

Letter You Will Ever Read

Here’s Why:

Howdy …

My name is Devian Day, and in just a moment, I will reveal to you the best kept secret that has helped thousands of highly desired girlfriends, wives and lovers across the globe master the art of dirty talk and deepen your relationship faster than you ever thought possible!

But first, I’d like to ask you a few simple questions.  Be as open and honest as humanly possible with yourself as you answer them…

Has your man put pressure on you to perform in bed –  even demanded that you talk dirty for his pleasure – freezing you like a deer in headlights and  making you feel like you’re not good enough for him?

Are you tired of feeling sexually inferior with a guy you want to please so badly and wish you could gain his approval without lacking confidence in yourself?

In your mind, he should want you for you and be satisfied with the woman you are…experiencing your beautiful feminine essence and stay addicted to you as long as you want, with very little effort necessary.

But, for some reason his attention and focus never seems to be on you, or if it is, you may not feel fully comfortable with it.

          Another question…

Have you ever attempted to talk dirty to your man after pushing yourself to break the ice, didn’t get the response you expected, and quickly felt awkward and embarrassed – killing the mood – making you look back at the experience with fear, guilt and rejection?  I mean, feeling like you failed at dirty talk…and only making the idea seem more and more nerve racking?

Nothing is worse than feeling rejected, especially in bed.  Enough bad experiences can lead you to a permanent state of performance anxiety that almost seems impossible to go away.

And you KNOW it shouldn’t be a big deal…but you beat yourself up about it anyway.

And Lastly:

Do you like the idea of talking dirty and pleasing your man’s wildest fantasy? Have you already started talking dirty to as a way to please him?  But, have your attempts fallen short… leaving you searching for the missing piece-of-the-puzzle… that will unleash your inner sex goddess and shower him with verbal bliss?

You want mutual SATISFACTION but there seems to be some sort of sex-que mix up that is sending the wrong signals…and it’s almost like he’s waiting for you to step up and show him a good time.

I’m willing to bet that when one of these things happened, it sparked something deep inside of you that said:

 “Enough is enough, I’m going to make this man remember me.”

Or even, you may think:  “It’s not fair that he isn’t satisfied without dirty talk, and I shouldn’t have to put up with this”.  But he doesn’t even know why he wants you to talk dirty, or give you any clues as to what he wants to hear.

And the worst part of all:  You still feel insecure about talking dirty to him.

In fact, it really HIT YOU HARD.  And I’m sure the reason is that you feel trapped and like you’ve done something WRONG (not just because he’s the aggressive one demanding dirty talk, like some men unfortunately are).

Even to this DAY you feel performance anxiety every time you want to start talking dirty to him out of the blue – maybe a sexy text message while he’s at work, or phone sex when you’re long distance – and get nervous wishing you knew exactly how to talk dirty to him knowing that if you did, your dirty talk attempts would be successful every time.

I hate to break it to you, but you’re probably right.

If you DID master the art of talking dirty to a guy, you wouldn’t flinch when it’s time to perform.  In fact, you’d JUMP at the chance to talk dirty to him, knowing that you’re just hooking him deeper and deeper into desiring you more and more.

You COULD have done something about it…if only you had known WHAT to say.

The Secrets Of Talking Dirty To A Guy…

Here’s a secret: You don’t talk dirty TO anyone, you create a dirty dialogue!

For example, you can talk TO a wall if you want, but that doesn’t mean it’s going to listen! And, more often than not – women just like you now a days are more and more feeling like talking dirty to their guy is no damn better.

You see, the underlying ISSUE here is a serious lack of communication between you and your partner.

No, I’m not talking about making plans, or picking up the kids after work – I mean real sexual communication

…knowing exactly what each other wants, desires, and craves…

…and understanding exactly how express it in a way that feels natural.

Of course, this requires having an open (and honest) “dirty” dialogue where you’re both 100% comfortable with each other– naked in every way.

Just imagine having absolutely zero sexual boundaries with your man, driven by passion and inspiring confidence to tell him EVERYTHING on your mind – no matter how dirty it may seem, or as “wrong” as it may feel – knowing beyond a shadow of a doubt that he’ll LOVE every single word that pours out of your sex goddess mouth!

And I mean this even if BOTH of you are stuck deep within your shell and are even TERRIFIED to see each other naked!

Can you dream of such heart-throbbing romance, passion, and turbo-charged sexual energy between you and any guy you desire to please…and what that would make you feel like?

The good news is that…


YES – You Can Turn This Fantasy Into Reality
Starting Today.

And I’m not kidding around, either.

I’ve been proving this bold promise for years now, helping thousands upon thousands of women step through the door of sexual excellence and come out a radiant goddess on the other side.

But, I didn’t do it alone:

  • After years of working in the self help industry, I was inspired to solve this “talking dirty” issue once-and-for-all by a friend in need– a beautiful girl, yet insecure and lacking confidence in bed. She asked me to help her get over her sexual hang-ups after years of negative sexual experiences, leaving her scared.
  • Then, I teamed up with a big time ad agency exec (who specializes in running focus groups and getting the route of peoples problems) spending hundreds of hours running surveys, conducting dozens of interviews, answering endless amounts of readers questions  – and doing almost unbelievable amounts of research. We dug DEEP into the heart of dirty talk, and why It’s been troubling most women…
  • Finally, I got help from a CEO of an L.A. publishing company – after a chance meeting I never expected. After hours of “bootcamp” style book writing lessons, and hours upon hours later, the most complete dirty talk book on the planet was born.

Look, I’m just a regular guy, and I NEVER thought I’d end up doing this stuff.

But, I can guarantee you this:  Not a single individual on this planet has gone as deep down the rabbit hole on the concept of dirty talk than I have…

…nor even came CLOSE to taking such intense and jaw-dropping sexual concepts, polishing them down into easy-to-digest juicy nuggets of dirty talk gold broken down and delivered with child-like simplicity.

And here’s the best part:  You can download your digital copy NOW to start reading it in the next 5 minutes and get 10-times better at talking dirty faster than you ever dreamed possible.

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Inside you’ll find:

    • The Number One pitfall – which most women completely ignore – that murders your ability to talk dirty to a guy before you even begin, and how to avoid it like the plague! (See page 2 inside … )
    • The secret about pleasing your man with dirty talk that he’s begging you to know…but is too afraid to tell you! (See page 3 … )
    • How to be a “lady in the streets but a freak in the bed” – the ultimate male fantasy – without fearing for your reputation, or the POSSIBILITY of a single rumor being spread! (Turn to page 7 … )
    • The shocking difference between a “slut” and the equally-as-sexual “serial monogamist”!  (Hint – This is NOT what you think, so listen up…)
    • Why real men desire classy women (and fall in love with them more) than most promiscuous women…PLUS how to send all the right signals to his dirty little mind!  (Note – This is also proven to work with “recovering sluts” who want to settle down)
    • How to captivate his fantasy and become the sex goddess of his dreams with this simple (and easy to use) “innocence” tactic that works every time! (See page 14 … )

“Devian, You and your advice have saved my relationship, and have brought me and my man closer together. You’re amazing. I can never repay you enough for this!

Thank you so very much!” -Amanda R.

 

    • How to finally face (and destroy) your fears of rejection, shame and embarrassment from dirty talk, so they never stand in your way again! (See page 8 … )
    • The truth about lust, how it relates to love, and how you can quickly know the difference! (See page 23 … )
    • The Top 3 ways to create an everlasting partnership – both inside and outside of the bedroom! (See page 72 … )
    • How to eliminate painful sexual barriers from your subconscious mind that have been botching your attempts at talking dirty from day-1! (See page 43 … )
    • Get In Touch With Your Body – The fundamental core of talking dirty with SERIOUS sexual intention with just a few simple steps! (See page 57.)
    • What it means to say “I want you”, and what he hears when you say it with this one mesmerizing method! (Hint – You’ll be saying what he wants to hear every time you use this one…)
    • The “insider” secrets of the Male ego revealed!  AND, how you can stroke his ego with dirty talk so that he completely feels like the KING OF THE WORLD! (Turn to page 45)
    • This shocking scientific truth explains why men are drawn to pornography on a biological level that is guaranteed to give you a massive “ah ha” moment and make sense of a LOT of his behavior! (See page 32.)
    • How the simple phrase “do you like that?” – whispered at the perfect moment will send shivers down his spine!  (Note – Most women use this phrase wrong!  But you’ll be using it like a pro, once you know this secret) (See page 62 … )
    • How to build a rock-solid sexual connection with your man while pleasing your SELF!  (Hint – Most women are totally shocked when they hear this one on page 38…)

 

“I have opened up my thoughts and fantasies and it is, in fact, driving [my man] crazy! After a few wild nights i actually got complimented that I am fantastic in bed! (Which is something I have never heard from any other guy). Thank You!” -Sarah D.

 

    • How to put your man on a dirty talk pedestal quickly – making him feel like the emperor of a kingdom without him ever knowing why! (See page 54)
    • The single most addictive thing you can do (and say) right now that will jump-start him to obsess over you every minute you’re apart! (See page 25)
    • How to subtlety hypnotize your man with dirty talk to have him eating out of the palm of your hand!  (WARNING – This is extremely powerful, so use with caution)
    • The tried-and-true “sexual energy” secrets that have applied to humanity for centuries – broken down in chilling detail – with simple step-by-step instructions for how to apply them to dirty talk! (See page 81)
    • What REALLY gets a man off, every-single-time! (Note – It’s not what you’re doing or not doing, it has 100% to do with him.  And you’ll be glad to know why on page 39…)
    • His Feminine Side:  How to help him tap into that little bit of feminine energy he needs to open in order to RECEIVE your dirty talk the way it’s meant to be heard!(See page 72)
    •  3 Top-Secret “Dirty Dialogue Code Words” that help you break the ice with your man before you freeze up talking dirty again! (See page 47)
    • How the “Triune Brain Model” applies to talking dirty!  This scientific breakdown of how your man THINKS, FEELS and ACTS will rip open a whole new world of insight for you to play with! (See page 35)
    • What words connect with what parts of his sex drive – Are you saying the right things? (See page 22)
    • How to speak passionately to your man BEYOND words, and ignight the sexual stallion within his spirit directly and cut to the chase! (See page 66)

“My boyfriend really seems to like the new improved less shy me. Thanks to you and your help, I am starting to feel comfortable with what I say and how I say it. So thank you for all your help and support!”

-Jordan W.

 

 

 

    • NEWS FLASH:  Guys can get insecure TOO!  Find out exactly how to reach into your man’s comfort zone and pull him out (and into sexual delight) in only a few short steps! (Turn to page 88)
    • Why he mostly gets off on YOUR PLEASURE, and how you can communicate it correctly to have him firing on all horny cylinders whenever you’d like! (See page 63)
    • The ancient astrology secrets that make breaking out of your shell easier than you ever imagined! (Turn to page 55)
    • How to program your own mind to be sexually “in tune” at the drop of a hat!  If you’ve ever felt “awkward” when starting to talk dirty before, this one is for you.
    • How to rid your thoughts of dirty talk silencing negativity – ESPECIALLY if its due to feelings of shame from your past relationships! (See page 44 … )
    •  How to live like a freak in private and NEVER worry about anyone knowing!
    • The life-changing difference between wearing a “good girl mask” vs unleashing the freaky sex goddess within – and how to maximize BOTH!  (Hint – This is very powerful stuff at work, here that most girls never even dream of knowing – see on page 46)
    • How to quickly expand your comfort zone so that even saying the dirtiest words you can think of, only gets you MORE excited and MORE turned on!  Imagine how he’ll react… (more on page 29)
    • Need a boost of confidence?  This quick-start affirmation will make you feel 10 times more comfortable talking dirty to your man instantly! (See page 57)
    • How to pretend to be painstakingly innocent, even when you are completely instigating everything!  Never get blamed for having sex again, with this one expert trick on page 94…

 

“I took your advice words of saying ‘I can still feel u inside me… and a lil more.’ Let me tell you… he was texting me all day from work AND his drive home, telling me about how hard he is, and how he can’t stop thinking about last nite!

Wow! Those few words really worked. Thanks!!!

-Brianne C.

 

  • 3 steps to dirty talk success!  Follow this simple script guideline and talking dirty will come naturally. (See page 64)
  • The PERFECT 3 tonality levels that sends the RIGHT dirty talk message to your man every time you try! (See page 51)
  • How asking questions can skyrocket your dirty talk success at just the right moment!  (Note – If you don’t know what to say when talking dirty, this is a HUGE leap from where you are now) (See page 84)
  • How (and why) giving in to your own sexual pleasure – in this one special way – can leave a permanent imprint in his fantasy mind forever! (See page 57)
  • The NUMBER ONE word that can be used all the time in dirty talk that always makes sense, no matter what! (See page 33)
  • How to control his fantasy so he never has to think about another woman again! (Pages 63-72)
  • The 3 step “Fireworks” system – full with fill-in-the-blank scripts – that will take your man from bored to full blown orgasm fast! (See pages 82-84)
  • The top 5 “guy” clues you can search for that uncover everything about your man’s sexual nature! (See page 30)
  • How to build rapport with your man so he feels more and more comfortable opening up to you!  (Note – This isn’t only a sexual thing here, this is about getting inside his head)
  • Dirty Talk VS Phone Sex:  How are they different?  Get the basics down for each and you’ll hit the mark every time! (See page 29)
  • How to bring the heat with your dirty talk and jolt him straight into the most magnificent orgasm of his life! (See page 92)
  • Three steps to dirty talk escalation revealed and broken down in easy action steps!
  • How to grasp this “secret weapon” that you can pull out – at any time – to stir things up between you and your man in seconds! (See page 85 … )
  • LONG TERM DIRTY TALK:  How to keep the spice alive in a long term relationship, no matter if its only been a week or even decades long! (See page 97 …)
  • How to ultimately build the most solid, most exciting, and most rewarding sexual bond humanly possible between a man and a woman through sexual connection! (See page 99 … )
  • And much much muuuuuch much more!

Honestly, I can go on and on about what awe inspiring insights are stuffed inside Dirty Dialogue:  A Good Girl’s Guide To Being Bad”, but I’ll stop right there.

The fact of the matter is, there’s enough dirty talking dynamite in this book to turbo charge your skill set and absolutely blow your man’s mind!

Now, before I even MENTION price, I want to give you even MORE dirty talk tools, tricks and tactics to maximize your dirty talk talent and equip you with everything in my power to bring you massive levels of success with your man.

“Your Book Is A Blessing…”

“Thanks for your info I really enjoyed your ebook!

I have started talking dirty (very discreetly) to my husband of 18 years and it seems to pump new life into our marraige thanks your book is a blessing”

 

– Ellen W.

“Click Here To Talk Dirty To Your Husband Like Ellen”

 

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“Thank You For What You’re Doing

For Us Women”

“I 100% loved your book! To be honest, it was much better than I anticipated. Great information to support each topic.

At least, for me, the info helped to really understand my boyfriend in a way that makes it stick in my head and pay attention to what I’m reading.

Thank you for what your doing for us women.”

-Bethany W.

 

“Click Here To Understand Your Boyfriend Like Bethany”

 

“I Hope You Can Educate Other Women…”

“The techniques, phrases, you share in your ebook are things that have worked for me for years. I can’t help but wonder how you got into my head. lol

Being naughty with the one you love is awesome and I highly recommend it. I hope you can educate other woman to be honest and totally open with themselves, it totally benefits them.

So keep being Dirty, I know I will. 🙂 “

 

-Cathy M.

“Click Here To Unleash Your Naughy Side Like Cathy”

I mean, so much life-changing knowledge about sex and relationships could sell for twice that, or more…

But, I REFUSE to charge that kind of money for the Dirty Dialogue package, even while other people think I’m nuts.

No.  I’m not here to make that kind of cash.  This book isn’t about me, it’s about you.  More importantly, it’s about what it will do for your relationship.

As a result, I’ve done everything in my power to make Dirty Dialogue insanely affordable and sell it at an embarrassingly low price.

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The price of my eBook “Dirty Dialogue:  A Good Girl’s Guide To Being Bad” is

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That’s it.  Less than dinner and a movie for one person (which wouldn’t be nearly as exciting anyways…since it would be the same old mundane thing you’ve been doing anyway – exactly what you need to avoid).

Is your relationship and sex life worth a mere $29.97 $29.99 investment?  Is HIS undying appreciation and YOUR ultimate pleasure worth less than dinner for two at some mid-class restaurant?

We both know the answer to that, otherwise you wouldn’t be here.

Here’s The Bottom Line:

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Or if you’re just starting out...

Or if you’ve taken six other relationships straight into break-up...

Or even if you haven’t got a clue WHAT you want to say yet…

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The ONLY thing that does matter right now… is your desire to take control of your romantic destiny.

Now know as well as I do that nothing good will ever happen if you don’t take the first step.  And, this is your first step towards becoming ..


The New And More Confident YOU!

I guarantee that whatever dirty talk problem that’s racking your brain and silently torturing you is addressed and answered here. Nothing else comes close.

 

“I needed your help talking dirty to my boyfriend because he is in the army and is stationed in Washington, where as I live in Nevada.You have helped me to open up to him when I can’t see him. So for that, I thank you!”-Gina M.

 

 

If you are finally ready to step up and conquer your insecurity with dirty talk forever, then do it now before you put it off (out of fear) and make excuses for why you DIDN’T do it later – which won’t change or fix a thing…

…or, you can take the first step today.


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The reason I can take such a major financial risk here is because I KNOW that Dirty Dialogue:  A Good Girl’s Guide To Being Bad will change your life forever and you will be satisfied…

…and HE will be satisfied with pleasure he couldn’t possibly imagine you giving him right now.  I guarantee it.

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Look, I promise that whatever it is holding you back from total sensual freedom isn’t just happening to you…it’s happening to thousands of intelligent women across the globe.

The truth is this: Your situation is not much different than the hundreds of women who were consulted when writing this book. And I put my own money down when I say that “If it’s irking you, we’ve got the solution you’ve been waiting for.”

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‘Thank you for all of your hard work. You have hit the nail on the head. If I had not known now what you have set me free, to talk dirty to my lover, I would still be in the dark ages.

My only wish was that I had known forty-five years ago what I have learned from you, I would have had a happier life with the man I have loved so dearly.

I just didn’t know what to say, or how to tell him what I wanted or like. Now, we have the most wonderful love affair, by e-mail and telephone. It is sad that, girls and women have been taught to be ashamed to feel, want, or even convey, what they truly desired.

 

For this, I thank you! Perhaps your knowledge will be the new wave in 2012″

 

-Jessica S.

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Black Mail

The fantasy of blackmail has come up a few times over the years and while I completely understand the thrill behind it this fantasy is one that very few sites actually allow a girl to do. I will not participate in the fantasy of blackmail for a number of reasons. Let’s go over the fun exciting parts first and then we will get into the reasons why I will not do this fantasy.

Everyone likes an adrenalin rush that is why scary movies and roller coasters are so popular. Blackmail is really just another way of getting that adrenalin rush. The act of giving out all of one’s information to someone you do not know is thrilling. The thought of being caught makes the butterflys start fluttering in one’s stomach. Trying to hide and keep a secret is a  turn on to a lot of people. I understand that and get it. However there is a down side to all of this when guys start getting into blackmail they can quickly give out a lot of information now in todays world a little goes a long ways. I used to work in skip tracing I know how having 3 to 4 good pieces of information can give me a persons place of employment, current and past spouses, parents, neighbors, address, all property owned by them, arrest records, and scores of other pieces of the puzzle. Most of this can be obtained in literally minutes.

Most of us girls do this as a job we enjoy it have a great time with it but understand the boundaries. Even if we are lifestylers there are certain rules that apply here that may or may not apply in our personal play time. However, there are always girls out there that cross those lines. Girls that will actually call up wives, employers, and family just to get what they want. I can assure anyone that the fantasy of blackmail is a lot more appealing than the reality of blackmail. Now lets flip the tables here there are also a lot of guys out there that will tell a woman they want to get busted it is the ultimate thing for them the full thrill of it etc. When as they say the ‘metal meets the meat’ and they do get caught I have known girls that have gotten arrested (not saying prosecuted but it is still a nasty expensive hassle) because some guy gets caught and then says well I was blackmailed there was nothing I could do.

I always tell girls do not deduct money from some guys account, do not use team viewer, do not spend money from a card with someone else’s name on it. These are all things that can cause a lot of problems for a girl even if they have permission from the guy.

There are things I do enjoy such as raping a guys wallet, piggy play, financial domination, and other power exchange money games.  These are a lot of fun and still give each party a sense of power exchange without the potential of life changing events.

Painted Toes

 

 

For me training a sissy boy is kind of a ritual and I enjoy all the different parts. One of the first things I do is make my sissy boys paint their toe nails. I really do not care about the color most the time they choose a pink or red. My enjoyment is forcing them to wear that under their everyday clothes and socks. This is generally a very big deal to them at the end of the day. They spend the whole time thinking about that one little part of them that no one can see that is so girly. Even the act of painting them starts to take on a lot of meaning for most guys.  This is one of my sluts pretty toes after I made him paint them and wear them all day to the office.

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5 Ways To Pleasure Yourself (Shared Article)

I’ve now written 40 articles for elephant journal.

Every one of my pieces is a window into my life, into the darkness, the lightness—the life I have lived.

I’ve spoken of my disorders, molestation, sex, relationships and divorce. Some may perceive my articles as ‘airing dirty laundry.’ I believe I share my life openly, transparently without shame, in order to help others know they are not alone in their thoughts, feelings or actions. Knowing we are not alone is the catalyst for growth, healing and transformation.

On the eve before my 34th birthday, I’m spending time reflecting on my life and the past year. My goal for the year to come is to continue shedding all the thoughts and conditioned beliefs that continue to hold me back.

I write this piece not only for myself, but for my daughters and all women.

My birthday wish is a wish for all of us; to stop hiding, stop feeling ashamed, and stop being embarrassed for who we are and what we want.

I give us all permission to explore our desires and our fantasies. I give us permission to claim what is our birthright—pleasure.

I do not want my daughters to own an ounce of guilt for expressing their sexuality, no matter how it manifests itself. I hope they freely explore their bodies, own their bodies, live in their bodies, enjoy their bodies and embrace all realms of giving and receiving pleasure.

I don’t want them to suffer like I have. It has taken almost 34 years for me to accept who dwells in me—a lioness who I have tamed and locked away for so long, because she scared me. I felt like a closet slut for years, until I recognized I’m no slut—I am an explosively passionate woman with a wild imagination and voracious desire for happiness and pleasure.

In my 34th year of life, I will release her completely because she deserves to live and breathe in the open, free of judgment—my judgment. She tries to ooze from my mind, my body and my heart every day and I can no longer contain her.

From adolecence to adulthood, I thought it was wrong to love sex as much as I did. I shunned my radiant imaginative desires and resisted pleasure completely. I thought it selfish, almost narcissistic to seek pleasure and attain a blissful state.

I searched in the wrong places—outside myself,  in a sexual encounter with someone I didn’t know very well or in validation from people around me. I didn’t think I deserved to feel good. I was afraid of intimacy with myself, of allowing my needs to be acknowledged and fulfilled.

I hid within my sexual experiences instead of participating in. I withheld pleasure from myself, from my life. I felt guilty for masturbating or fulfilling my fantasies. 

As I mature, I recognize the most important part of life, the gift of life is our ability to feel pleasure, to know pleasure.

God built me with the character I have, the thoughts, the desires, the body and the spirit I am meant to have in this life. I don’t need to cover up or be anyone else. Instead of trying to change, be something else–something more holy or more pure, I am meant to thrive and function as myself.

I give myself and all of us permission to stop avoiding who we are and give in to what gives us pleasure regardless of what society deems acceptable or unacceptable.

This year has gifted me–I didn’t know making love with myself had the power to usher me into a nest of self acceptance. It has transformed my ability to trust and be intimate with another person, to receive pleasure–which I never had before.

I didn’t know that the simple act of giving myself permission to feel good would change my life.

Here is my gift of permission for you:

1. Tease Yourself, Seduce Yourself—Get Naked Under Your Clothes.

I don’t wear underwear, unless (for sanitary reasons) I wear a short skirt which is a rare occurrence. I have a dresser drawer full of Hanky Pankys in a rainbow of colors that sit unharnessed to my pelvis. Why? Because it’s sexy to not wear them. I love being exposed. I am ready for pleasure at any moment. I enjoy teasing myself, seducing myself all day long.

At night, I wear a sheer slip to bed. The tingling sensation of the fabric on my skin gives me goosebumps. I love the way my nipples break through the veil of cloth. I stand in front of the mirror and I appreciate (not judge) the beauty of my body through the cloud of cotton. I separate from myself, admiring the person who stands before me yearning to be discovered, uncovered and explored.

I sleep naked—a lot. I recommend spending time every day naked. It’s a little uncomfortable at first. We are used to being naked between clothing changes, showering or having sex. What about just being naked? Enjoying the freedom of no restraints.

The first thing my daughters do when they walk in at the end of the day is strip down to nothing. They run around, do somersaults, dance. They are more comfortable naked than dressed.

When we are naked, we can’t hide—being vulnerable is vital to becoming comfortable with ourselves. Only when we are comfortable with ourselves can we be comfortable with another.

2. Act Like An Animal, Once in Awhile.

Animals are naked in every way; they don’t have manners, they don’t have clothes. They eat without utensils. They get dirty. They mate when they need to and want to, no matter who is watching.

Try being an animal once in a while.

Eat with your hands, eat foods that explode with juice allow them to coat your body and don’t rub it away. Get messy.

Allow yourself to go primal. If you have a partner, grab them and devour them as you did your food and if you are alone, devour yourself; in the middle of the living room, with the shades open, let the light in and please yourself.

3. Give In To Your Dark Side.

Give in to your desires. Your secret fantasies. Give in to your dark side. Who cares what “people” say is appropriate. If you desire it, explore it.

I enjoy watching pornography (well-executed pornography, that is).

I get turned on by watching and listening to people pleasuring each other.

I become fully invested in the experience. I pay attention to my mind and body as they respond to the stimulation. I melt into it,  and before long I find myself caressing my own body as if it were another craving me, wanting me. My flaws no longer exist, I am perfect, I am all pleasure. It is ok, more than ok to love pleasure, and watching others giving and receiving it.

4. Do it in Front of a Mirror.

I used to avoid the act of masturbation. I would listen to the urge, do it and be done. I avoided what it looked like, what I looked like and how it felt. Now, I make as much of an effort to embrace the experience during my self pleasure as I do when making love with a partner.

I use toys or just my hands, depending on my mood.

I think it is important to build a partnership with my vagina. I know her, I know how she responds, what she looks like—I am connected with her.

I get down on the floor, in front of the mirror, and I look into myself. I watch as my face changes as I become aroused and how my body reacts in climax. It is nourishing to watch myself receive pleasure.

My advice is to make masturbation a sacred practice. Practice getting turned on by, you. Grab your breasts, rake your hands down your stomach. Make love with yourself because until we can make love with ourselves, be comfortable alone, we can’t be comfortable with anyone else.

5. Write It and Read It.

Write your fantasies, write your experiences, keep typing, don’t stop, don’t think about it. Just write and then, read what you write. Read it out loud.

Our spirit lives in our words. She exposes herself within the punctuation. There is no right or wrong. If you like bondage, give into it—it is how your spirit wishes to express herself.

Just as we are all unique, different, so are our desires. We all have something we fight against, that we stuff down because we think it is wrong to want what we want. It is not.

Give in to yourself. Allow yourself to feel the pleasure you crave.

Pleasure brings us as close to our spirit as we will ever be.

Look at the children of the world– they are pleasure seekers, pleasure dwellers and they are the happiest, purest beings on the planet. They do what feels good and right for themselves. They don’t care if it is socially acceptable–they listen to their hearts and their needs.

As we age to adulthood, sexual pleasure is and can be the most profound way to connect with ourselves. Pleasuring ourselves first, understanding our needs and wants must happen before we can receive pleasure from or give pleasure to another.

Once we connect and accept our desires, we accept who we are as we are.

By Rebecca Lammersen

 

http://www.elephantjournal.com/2013/06/5-ways-to-pleasure-yourself/

Teasing Dress Pictures

After a hot and sweaty night on the town I just couldn’t resist teasing you guys with some up shots. This is a perfect little dress both very low and very high at the same time. Makes for a very fun night. You pantyhose guys are just going to love these purple tiny fishnets as much as I do. Now come help me strip out of this so we can end the night on a very OHHH perfect note…..

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This is the act of giving oneself a blow job. Now before you go getting all excited and hurting your neck there are only about 1% of men who can actually do this. To be able to suck your own cock you have to be very flexible and have a decent size penis. It is very prevalent in history especially with the Egyptians. So this is not a new fetish it has been around for a bit of time. With the Egyptian culture it was more focused as an act performed by the male gods. Yes even I see the pun in that one. Only a god can suck his own cock. What I find the most interesting is how in ancient history fetishes of this nature were just part of the society they were not frowned upon or seen as nasty. In a lot of ways our sexuality has been suppressed.

I have had guys try numerous times over the years with only a few that could actually get the tip of it in their mouth.  Most of the guys that I have talked to or even played with in my own sexual experiences have  laid against a wall and jerked their penises off into their mouths.  I would imagine that this is a fetish far more enjoyed in fantasy than in reality. Think about it for a moment you are all scrunched up with your neck bent a weird angle trying to get pleasure out of your own mouth. While it is fun to talk about and masturbate too blowjobs seem a lot more pleasurable when administered by someone else.

I do remember years ago a rumor about Marilyn Manson having a rib removed just so he could suck his own cock. It makes me wonder how far a guy will actually got to get a blow job.

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