I am a lifestyler, so that means I have done both real play and role play. Real play and role play are both fun and sexually stimulating. Humans need the mental aspect of sexuality. The physical point of being touched by someone is not what creates an intense orgasm. It is the tease that builds up the intensity of how we react to a partner. Humans are complicated yet simple. Think about the first time you were involved in a sexual interaction. Most of us have a long time of trying to get from one aspect of sexuality to another. The whole baseball comparison of first base, second base, and the home run it cliche but explains the tease/denial aspect. I have had people tell me there is no connection between role play and real play that is untrue. I have had a real play that was disappointing. There has been roleplaying over the years in which the orgasm was intense. It is the interaction of the people involved and how much they invest into the situation that determines its outcome.
Read an article on marriage and ti will tell people that sex gets better for people involved in a relationship. Being in a relationship can be great, or it can be horrid. Over the years people have told me they do not share the kinks with their partner about the intriguing fantasies they have. I would not want to be with someone I could not open up to. If a person is in a relationship that offers sexual exploration, then it would be great for sexuality. If a person feels the need to hide certain parts of who they are then they will withdraw from the relationship and sexuality will suffer. It is not necessary for my mind to have a romantic relationship to have a sexual relationship. I have played with several people over the years who I enjoyed but would not have wanted to spend every day in the company of.
When it comes to role play (I am defining this as two people in two different locations in this instance) in my experience, this can be just as wonderful if not more so than real play. Over the years I have talked to some fun individuals even though we were hundred if not thousand of miles our play time proved to be sexually stimulating. After being around human sexuality of people, I do not have an intimate daily relationship with I have discovered there can be role play that is intense. I have some people that I have talked to for over eleven years they have shared with me intimate, deep parts of their life. I know more about them then their stream of significant other through all that time. While we may not have the daily connection due to our strict relationship limited by circumstances the understanding of sexuality is intense. Most of the time these fetishes are innocent. A lot of men are into panties, pantyhose, being tied up, or different roles where women are in control. I enjoy hearing about them, and it saddens me in a lot of ways to think they do not have a level of comfort to share. Explore the parts of yourself even if you are not sure how it will be received understand that many have already traveled that road. Be yourself be open and surround yourself with people who adore you for you, not for your sexuality.