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The Joys Of Anal

A lot of times in our sexual life we run into things that initially seem like they would be awful. After a little bit of education and proper introduction it starts to be more appealing. When it comes to anal this is one of those things that fall into that category. If a person tries to introduce themselves into anal through pornography that can be a frightening experience. For most people that utilize anal in their personal sexual adventure it is a lot milder than the over the top things that are done in mass production porn.

Starting out should be just teasing a finger gently rubbing against the ass hole or even lightly being pushed inside. There is no reason to start out with full blown anal. Let a person get used to the new sensation and more importantly let them enjoy all the new sensations that come from an area that has not had any attention. After that becomes very relaxing and all the jitters are gone move up to something a little more. This can be analingus which means using ones tongue on the bottom in a way similar to the way it would be used on a woman’s vagina. This if done properly can be a fabulous sensation.

From the sensation of the tongue a finger inserted to the anus with some gentle stretching can easily send a person over the edge. There are a number of toys that can be utilized at this step. Start small and slowly working up from there.  Toys can go from very thin about the width of a finger to things that are almost grotesque in size. Only a few people will actually go beyond an 8 inch toy. There is nothing wrong with that. As with all things sexual it should be an individual process that brings satisfaction.

Strapon play is often discussed when it comes to women on men play. Strapon do not have to be huge to be enjoyable. There is a learning curve on both sides. Women have to learn to use their hips in ways that might not be used to doing. For men they have to learn how to arch their backs and open themselves up mentally as well as physically to the play spectrum.

Men often are conditioned to think that anal is a homosexual thing and it is far from that. There is no reason why a man should be made to feel this way. Sexuality is an individual process and things that feel good that do not cause harm to others should be explored.

Wherever a person is they should be made to feel that exploration is okay with their partner. If a persona is completely turned off by something then of course that should not be forced onto them. However what I see is a lot of especially when it comes to women they let others peoples opinion that are not involved influence their sexuality.

Anal And All Its Fun

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A great podcast that talks about anal sex between men and women, women and men, and men and men.  Anal sex is something that I talk about a lot on the phone. There are a number of guys that want to try anal play with their female significant other but they are afraid to bring it up. Women tend to do a good job at making their significant other uncomfortable with bringing up new things. They make their men feel that all things are gross or nasty. Toys for the ass are a lot of fun.  They do not have to be large for most people the smaller toys are a lot more fun. There are a lot of women that do not understand how much their men want to please the women or how they desire to be submissive to the women in a lot of ways.  Pegging or strapon play is a popular subject it can be slow and seductive or hard and aggressive. As with all new things when starting out take it slow make sure that both people are comfortable with what is happening. Porn is fun to watch but it does not represent reality at all. Most porn is highly edited so what you see is in no way what was shot. For women there are a number of women that want to try anal but they are afraid of being called a plethra of names so they do not communicate these desires to the men in their lives. Sex should never be used as a way to judge a person’s social status. We see this so much that a person is gay if they enjoy anal or a woman is a slut if she does something. This is so far from the truth of what life is like. Anal can add a layer of play that if done right can be super enjoyable for both people involved.  Yes there can be mess but that is actually rare and if you take a little care and clean up before play. Lube can not be stressed enough for anal it makes it easier for both partners and increases the pleasure levels.  As long as you do not go crazy on the girth size you do not have to worry about things being stretched out then not returning to normal.  How about you are you into anal tell me all about it in the comments below?



Anal Intruder Stainless Steel Male Sex Toy


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The stainless steel Anal Intruder a male sexual device with a two inch cock ring and a small 1.25″ anal ball. It can be worn for extended periods of time and will not automatically pop out once inserted. It can be used to enhance penetration play. It can also be used with temperature play and vibrators.

I have always thought that stainless steel toys are sexy and sensual. They are very easy to care for and easy to clean. Stainless steel does not have the issues that come from any of the soft based adult toys. If properly cared for stainless steel will last a lifetime. That can not be said about the softer toys that start to break down in one form or another. There is also the issue of bacteria with stainless steel it can be easily disinfected so that it is easy to make sure it absolutely clean. Any toy that has pits in it is very difficult to make sure it is absolutely clean. This is a fun male toy that allows for a cock ring to increase size and sensitivity; as well as some fun anal play. This is not a large size ball so it will work with men who may not be used to anal play or may be starting out. One of the fun things of stainless steel is that it starts out cool on its own and warms up to body temperature. It can be cooled to a lower degree to add layers of play. Transferring heat is also a really fun thing to do with stainless steel.  A great way to have some fun.