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Brat Needs Punished In BDSM Relationships

When we are discussing the interaction between a mistress and a submissive there are some submissives who feel the need to push their mistress to the point where she must punish them. This requires a Mistress who has a lot of patience to deal with a personality that is constantly making her life difficult. Generally this type of personality is not playful and fun. The Brat is often a person who is dramatic in personality. They want to push people to the point of having them blow up with emotion. Often after a blow up the brat will then act as if they are the victim in the situation. This is far from the reality of the situation in that they set up scenario and played it out how they desired it to go. A Brat often does not understand being a willing submissive. Their actions can come out of the guilt of being submissive they want someone to force them so they are not responsible for their actions. Some Brats just enjoy trying to get the upper hand on the Mistress they may never actually intend to do it but they like the rush of almost getting there.

For a Mistress especially a new one just starting out this can be an intense frustrating situation. If she has little understanding of the mental game being played it can cause her to doubt her ability to rule her submissive. I have personally known a few Mistresses who’s first interactions were with Brats and ultimately they were their lasts. While a Brat may see this as something that is fun in the end it often backfires on them. Through the years I have spoken with numerous men who tell me of the ONE submissive relationship they have been in where after the fact they saw what they were doing. For a Mistress like myself I have no want to deal with this type of behavior. I want a willing submissive one who wants nothing more than to make me happy no matter what I ask. I have had a few submissive women who played this game and for me it emotionally exhausting. I soon grew bored with this type of submissive. I dumped them quickly with no want to have them in my life at any level. A Brat needs to make it very clear to the Mistress what and why they are doing the things they are doing. Without proper communication and both people being on the same level of understanding this situation rarely if ever ends well.

Catherterophilia Urethra Sounding Play

While all three of these are similar or even identical there are some nuances between them. Catherterophilia is the medical side of cather play. There is a large group of people who are into medical play for sexual enjoyment. This is not about urine but the process itself that they enjoy. This type of play is done as if it were in a medical setting and is all about the steps involved and the control in this case of the bladder. Urethra is more the sexual side of this play it is still done generally with a cather but it is more about working someone up and then using that to give them an intense orgasm. The only difference between Catherterophilia and Urethra is the setting the acts are still about the same.

Sounding is using solid rods in the place of cathers. It is about the stretching sensation of using larger rods in place of others. It is also about the feeling of having the urethra stimulated from the inside. A lot of people think that this type of play is new but it has been documented from as long ago as 4000 years. Like most fetishes they are not new to our time frame. These fetishes do require skills to be learned and a number of safety precautions as to not harm someone. These areas of the body are fragile to some degree and one can cause a lot of harm very quickly that will require medical intervention. This type of play is not for people who are lazy on the clean side. Infections can be common even under the best situations. It is important to make sure that everything is kept sterile at all times. Sounding has become more popular in the last couple of years and with it a lot of men are trying it on themselves. With a little practice and going very slow at first it can bring on intense orgasms. It can increase the fluid produced during orgasms to a much higher volume. I have had men explain that a handjob combined with sounding is a sensation they can not even describe in words. If you were wondering what would have been used in ancient times for this type of play the most common were bone, antler, and ivory. Now we have much better play things such as stainless steel and glass (though breakage might be frighting to some).

Nice Wicked Mistress vs. Mean Wicked Mistress

Having worked in the BDSM side of adult entertainment for a long time I have seen a large differentiation between two types of Mistress. These are hardcore distinctions which go clear to the core of who a woman is. The first is nice wicked mistress she is the type of woman who is more sensual she will make you cry if it pleases her but you will crave to do anything she requests. She is the woman that a man falls in love with every cell of his body will want to serve her. The second kind is mean wicked mistress she enjoys the infliction of pain and that is her turn on. She does not care whether you enjoy anything she does to you because you are unimportant to her end game. Your body is there for her to use as a tool and you can easily be replaced with anyone. There is a large group that enjoys both types of mistresses and there is no right or wrong when it comes to bdsm play.

The nice wicked mistress wants you to come to her of your own accord she wants you to desire nothing more than making her happy. She does not enjoy breaking you to get you to submit. Most of these types of mistress will quickly become bored with someone who is resisting submission. This is not about causing or not causing pain this is about that feeling of being adored. She enjoys a soft touch to bring you in then increasing the intensity till you break down for her. Once she has you to that point she will build you back up and mold you into the person she desires you to be. She uses her body and mind to put you where she wants you to be. There is generally a sexual energy to this woman in a lot of cases men and women find themselves drawn to her in ways they do not understand.

The mean wicked mistress is all about the process of breaking someone she enjoys the challenge of forcing someone into submission. For a lot of women once they reach that point they become bored with that person and move to someone else. I often talk to men that become involved with these women and about the time the man was falling for her she was moving to her next conquest. The process of submission is what she craves after she has created her perfect submissive she wants a new toy. She often does not see the submissive as a person but more of something equivalent to clay to be molded, painted and hardened with fire. She rarely falls in love with submissive a lot of these women never fall in love at all and a large number of them do not care to. They enjoy the fear they can install into someone it is almost an addiction to them.

Communication is key to having a good relationship with a mistress and understanding there is no right or wrong kind only the correct one for you.

Dirty Mouths Make For Fun Times

Do you like it down and dirty? OH I am a very dirty girl and I like it when you take what you want. I have a very nasty mouth on me and enjoy filling your ear up with all those nasty words; talking dirty is such a huge turn on for me. We can lay here on the bed together and have some mutual masturbation fun. If you prefer you can have any hole you want I will happily give them all to you. I like to service your cock and make you feel good. I have no issues with being the bad girl that you come and see when your girl is not in the mood to give you all the pleasure that you want. I like to dress up in all kinds of kinky things but one of my favorite is leather the smell is euphoric and the feel is just sinful. I have a lot of toys that we can get out and have some fun with. Are you in the mood to try something kinky like tying me up? Well I have tons of fun things we can get out and turn me your own pretzel the feel of complete confinement is a naughty and nice. I have been exploring the world of bdsm for a number of years I know what I like and that is making my dominant happy. Have you ever wanted to try something you would never tell your girl about? You can tell me! I have a strap on and I know how to use it. I will send you out to suck cock or how about we share one together? It’s always fun to kiss over a big thick cock and feel it slide between both of our lips. I need to have sex in a way that is kinky and fun, I don’t want the normal and mundane. I like it when you just come in the door and rip my panties off to bend me over and take me hard. You know you think about being that aggressive man who gets what he wants when he wants it your girl just has you convinced it is wrong. Trust me for a girl like me it is oh so right.

Give me a call and let us talk about all those kinky thoughts you think about all day long.

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I like a naughty boy that knows how to go after what he wants. I am a housewife that gets left alone all day to my own toys and devices; believe me I have a few. If you are into toys that is great because I really enjoy using mine. As a matter of fact I tend to use them till they just give up. I know we will have some fun both of us masturbating together. If you are into a little bit of raunchy kink I greatly enjoy giving my play mates some cum eating instructions. I really enjoy dressing up in some lingerie and having some fun with bdsm (bondage, domination, sadism, and masochism). I am on most days and most the time. I do not always sit at my computer as I like to be outside naked or working topless in my flower garden. If you call me I am right here reading and waiting to get worked up with you. If you choose to join me and become on of my online special friends then expect a few really good things. I will remember you if you spend a little time with me. I do not take notes I just have this ability to remember people and special things about them. I have a free blog for my close friends which has all kinds of stuff on it. I have free trailers to my movies, free pictures, stories about calls, and kinky things I do in my life. You will also find things that I find funny or weird or interesting and just a ton of other stuff. I have a twitter account and welcome you to follow me on it. If you tumblr then you can find me there as well. I am very kinky and enjoy a lot of different things I have been bisexual my whole life and enjoy talking about girls. There have been a number of adventures in my life. I enjoy cuckolding and have explored that side of me many a time. So if you just want some old fashion fun or maybe something with a little spanking. Give me a call and lets take a little time with each other.

I have a very big clit and if you suck on it just right you can make it larger. The feel of my clit swelling always gets me super excited and always gets me very wet. One of my favorite things to do is watch a man play with his cock teasing it until he gives a huge shot of cum all over. That just really makes me happy to know that I made you come that much and that hard. I have some nice 34DD titties and I really like it when you worship those nice big breasts on my petite frame. Give me a call and lets have some fun.

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Paradox of Power Exchange Between Dominate And Submissive

I have been studying domination and submission for over thirty years now and the misunderstanding of the relationship between the two is astonding to me. I have only been doing phone sex, camming and amatuer movies for seven years. There is a huge adulteration of the relationship in the industry. I have been kicked out of Mistress sites because I did not follow their rules of what a Mistress should be. I am in and have always been in a loving dominate relationship that is what I crave whether it be male or female in nature. I do not live my life through a heavy hand but when I set the rules I demand that they be followed. I enjoy laughing and having a good time with the people I am with. I do not have to be in complete control all the time in fact there are a lot of times I do not honestly care.  One of the major differences between my philosophy of dominate and submissive and the online version is that I am a lifestyler. I have a life that is far more encompassing than just bedroom play. I want my submissives to have happy lives and while I will push their limits I do not go beyond those limits I respect them. While a short term fantasy is a  wonderful thing it should never be confused with real life. I often get men that call me saying they want to be a full time live in slave. I have no issue with that there are many people that live that way. But these men have zero understanding of the realities of that life they want a woman to take away everything their family, their friends, their money, their hole self worth. This might make for a great weekend fantasy or for a novel, however, it will not work in the real world. For those that live the life style understand that at the end of the day it is the submissive that is in control of the relationship. It is their level of desire to submit (not be controlled) which creates the wonderful dynamic of this form of relationship. While there is some fun in forced submission play people can not live a day to day life like that it becomes physically, emotionally and mentally exhausting. A submissive has to want to serve and must go out of their way to serve for them to be dominated long term.

Tell me your thoughts on the paradox of power exchange in the comments below.

Ass Worship The Seduction Of Smothering

I have always had a big round booty as long as I can remember. The really funny thing is when I was young and being a Southern girl I was told that having a big bottom was a bad thing. When I became an adult I quickly figured out that men like round bottoms. I am not talking about having a turn sideways to get through a door thing more just round and voluptuous. I have been playing in the bdsm/cuckold world since I was 17. I didn’t start doing phone sex or camming until I was in my mid 30’s so everything I have learned of men, women and their liking of round bottoms has come from real world experience. First off women’s magazines lie there is nothing wrong with having a body that looks like a woman should look.

Through the years I have come to realize that I greatly enjoy ass worship. I like to have a man slowly kiss all over my bottom. I greatly enjoy having my ass licked and teased I find this even more enjoyable if I am sitting on a man’s face while he licking all over. The act of smothering someone with my ass is a fairly new for me. I didn’t really start playing with that until I was in my late 30’s. The older I become the more I find myself gravitating towards the dominate side of sexuality. I like the power play between myself and a submissive. I like to feel someone completely under my power because that is the exact place they desire to be. There is just something far more superior about sitting on someone’s face and controlling their breathing by using my round luscious bottom.

The games that can be played with ass worship are far more demanding than those that can be played with foot worship. The feel of those feet all over someone’s face is fun. However, when I sit down on a face like it is my personal throne and proceed to grind all over that is an almost wicked feeling. I like that I can play with a man’s testicles or a woman’s pussy while controlling everything they can and can not do. I enjoy telling someone to lick my ass more or telling them to stick their finger back in my ass hole because I never gave them permission to take it out.

Are you an ass man? Do you like a woman to control you by using her bottom? Tell me all your thoughts in the comments.

Fetish Ederacinism Tearing Out Sexual Organs By The Roots

Some of the fetishes I am looking at and talking about this year are fun, sexy, and not so out there. There will be some like Ederacinism which are of a darker nature. I want to be fair in what we are discussing so not all of these fetishes will be easy or comfortable to talk about and deal with to me that is okay. Part of exploring ones sexuality is to stretch out into areas that are not comfortable to find one’s limitations. I would not suggest trying each and every one of these but talking about it and some of the reasons behind it are important.  When I first started researching this I thought it was along the lines of something that I often do with submissives we will discuss that later.

Starting out with what Ederacinism is the thought of ripping ones sexual organs out by the roots in order to punish one’s self in order to punish one’s self for too many sexual wants and desires. The fetish itself is very brutal in nature.

Now  when I thought of this what came to me was where I tie a guy up nice and tight and tease his balls. Leaning over and telling him how if he is not a good boy I will just rip it off. Then watching and feeling his body respond to the adrenalin dump that courses through him.  Sexy and fun. That does not seem to apply to this fetish. Neither does it seem to be where a man would become a eunuch for his mistress.

The fetish itself is a punishing one of a very brutal nature. Now I am sure if we searched a lot we would find someone that had committed these acts to themselves. However I strongly think that most people just think of the act and that is what turns them on even more.  To me this would seem to be a fetish of sexual disfunction as it is of something that is meant to punish for thinking of sexual wants and in the end the person become more turned on at the thought of being punished.

Personally I think I will stick to my sexier and more fun version of this. I have always enjoyed playing with a mans balls and a little bit of fear implemented at the right moment can make a play session even more fun.

 

If you are interested in even more fetishes take a look at this blog that I ran across while doing some research.
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Black Mail

The fantasy of blackmail has come up a few times over the years and while I completely understand the thrill behind it this fantasy is one that very few sites actually allow a girl to do. I will not participate in the fantasy of blackmail for a number of reasons. Let’s go over the fun exciting parts first and then we will get into the reasons why I will not do this fantasy.

Everyone likes an adrenalin rush that is why scary movies and roller coasters are so popular. Blackmail is really just another way of getting that adrenalin rush. The act of giving out all of one’s information to someone you do not know is thrilling. The thought of being caught makes the butterflys start fluttering in one’s stomach. Trying to hide and keep a secret is a  turn on to a lot of people. I understand that and get it. However there is a down side to all of this when guys start getting into blackmail they can quickly give out a lot of information now in todays world a little goes a long ways. I used to work in skip tracing I know how having 3 to 4 good pieces of information can give me a persons place of employment, current and past spouses, parents, neighbors, address, all property owned by them, arrest records, and scores of other pieces of the puzzle. Most of this can be obtained in literally minutes.

Most of us girls do this as a job we enjoy it have a great time with it but understand the boundaries. Even if we are lifestylers there are certain rules that apply here that may or may not apply in our personal play time. However, there are always girls out there that cross those lines. Girls that will actually call up wives, employers, and family just to get what they want. I can assure anyone that the fantasy of blackmail is a lot more appealing than the reality of blackmail. Now lets flip the tables here there are also a lot of guys out there that will tell a woman they want to get busted it is the ultimate thing for them the full thrill of it etc. When as they say the ‘metal meets the meat’ and they do get caught I have known girls that have gotten arrested (not saying prosecuted but it is still a nasty expensive hassle) because some guy gets caught and then says well I was blackmailed there was nothing I could do.

I always tell girls do not deduct money from some guys account, do not use team viewer, do not spend money from a card with someone else’s name on it. These are all things that can cause a lot of problems for a girl even if they have permission from the guy.

There are things I do enjoy such as raping a guys wallet, piggy play, financial domination, and other power exchange money games.  These are a lot of fun and still give each party a sense of power exchange without the potential of life changing events.