I have been studying domination and submission for over thirty years now and the misunderstanding of the relationship between the two is astonding to me. I have only been doing phone sex, camming and amatuer movies for seven years. There is a huge adulteration of the relationship in the industry. I have been kicked out of Mistress sites because I did not follow their rules of what a Mistress should be. I am in and have always been in a loving dominate relationship that is what I crave whether it be male or female in nature. I do not live my life through a heavy hand but when I set the rules I demand that they be followed. I enjoy laughing and having a good time with the people I am with. I do not have to be in complete control all the time in fact there are a lot of times I do not honestly care. One of the major differences between my philosophy of dominate and submissive and the online version is that I am a lifestyler. I have a life that is far more encompassing than just bedroom play. I want my submissives to have happy lives and while I will push their limits I do not go beyond those limits I respect them. While a short term fantasy is a wonderful thing it should never be confused with real life. I often get men that call me saying they want to be a full time live in slave. I have no issue with that there are many people that live that way. But these men have zero understanding of the realities of that life they want a woman to take away everything their family, their friends, their money, their hole self worth. This might make for a great weekend fantasy or for a novel, however, it will not work in the real world. For those that live the life style understand that at the end of the day it is the submissive that is in control of the relationship. It is their level of desire to submit (not be controlled) which creates the wonderful dynamic of this form of relationship. While there is some fun in forced submission play people can not live a day to day life like that it becomes physically, emotionally and mentally exhausting. A submissive has to want to serve and must go out of their way to serve for them to be dominated long term.
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I have always had a big round booty as long as I can remember. The really funny thing is when I was young and being a Southern girl I was told that having a big bottom was a bad thing. When I became an adult I quickly figured out that men like round bottoms. I am not talking about having a turn sideways to get through a door thing more just round and voluptuous. I have been playing in the bdsm/cuckold world since I was 17. I didn’t start doing phone sex or camming until I was in my mid 30’s so everything I have learned of men, women and their liking of round bottoms has come from real world experience. First off women’s magazines lie there is nothing wrong with having a body that looks like a woman should look.
Through the years I have come to realize that I greatly enjoy ass worship. I like to have a man slowly kiss all over my bottom. I greatly enjoy having my ass licked and teased I find this even more enjoyable if I am sitting on a man’s face while he licking all over. The act of smothering someone with my ass is a fairly new for me. I didn’t really start playing with that until I was in my late 30’s. The older I become the more I find myself gravitating towards the dominate side of sexuality. I like the power play between myself and a submissive. I like to feel someone completely under my power because that is the exact place they desire to be. There is just something far more superior about sitting on someone’s face and controlling their breathing by using my round luscious bottom.
The games that can be played with ass worship are far more demanding than those that can be played with foot worship. The feel of those feet all over someone’s face is fun. However, when I sit down on a face like it is my personal throne and proceed to grind all over that is an almost wicked feeling. I like that I can play with a man’s testicles or a woman’s pussy while controlling everything they can and can not do. I enjoy telling someone to lick my ass more or telling them to stick their finger back in my ass hole because I never gave them permission to take it out.
Are you an ass man? Do you like a woman to control you by using her bottom? Tell me all your thoughts in the comments.
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Chilly and I are often asked this question and while we both enjoy a wide variety of things there are a few things that we enjoy a little bit more. We both really like pantyhose there is just something about them that makes a girl very feminine and also in control. I have a great liking to boots well shoes is probably a more adequate description. I adore having my feet worshipped and daunted on. Being worshipped all over my body makes me very happy. Chilly is a little bit more submissive she likes being told what to do. She likes that you tell her how to please you. I have always had a great enjoyment of sissy guys dressing them up, putting them down it is all fun. Now Chilly and I have explored a number of different fetishes so this is more what we enjoy on a regular basis not what we enjoy over all. Do you have a favorite fetish that you want to talk about. Give us a call and lets have some fun with it.