Having worked in the BDSM side of adult entertainment for a long time I have seen a large differentiation between two types of Mistress. These are hardcore distinctions which go clear to the core of who a woman is. The first is nice wicked mistress she is the type of woman who is more sensual she will make you cry if it pleases her but you will crave to do anything she requests. She is the woman that a man falls in love with every cell of his body will want to serve her. The second kind is mean wicked mistress she enjoys the infliction of pain and that is her turn on. She does not care whether you enjoy anything she does to you because you are unimportant to her end game. Your body is there for her to use as a tool and you can easily be replaced with anyone. There is a large group that enjoys both types of mistresses and there is no right or wrong when it comes to bdsm play.
The nice wicked mistress wants you to come to her of your own accord she wants you to desire nothing more than making her happy. She does not enjoy breaking you to get you to submit. Most of these types of mistress will quickly become bored with someone who is resisting submission. This is not about causing or not causing pain this is about that feeling of being adored. She enjoys a soft touch to bring you in then increasing the intensity till you break down for her. Once she has you to that point she will build you back up and mold you into the person she desires you to be. She uses her body and mind to put you where she wants you to be. There is generally a sexual energy to this woman in a lot of cases men and women find themselves drawn to her in ways they do not understand.
The mean wicked mistress is all about the process of breaking someone she enjoys the challenge of forcing someone into submission. For a lot of women once they reach that point they become bored with that person and move to someone else. I often talk to men that become involved with these women and about the time the man was falling for her she was moving to her next conquest. The process of submission is what she craves after she has created her perfect submissive she wants a new toy. She often does not see the submissive as a person but more of something equivalent to clay to be molded, painted and hardened with fire. She rarely falls in love with submissive a lot of these women never fall in love at all and a large number of them do not care to. They enjoy the fear they can install into someone it is almost an addiction to them.
Communication is key to having a good relationship with a mistress and understanding there is no right or wrong kind only the correct one for you.