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What is a Life Styler?

I have been working on the internet since around 2007/2008 before that I was just what most people would have thought of as a normal person. I worked in the corporate world and had for a long time. To the outside world I was just a wife. However since the time I had left home I had been having threesomes, playing with s&m, and cuckolding. I was doing it because I just had the urges and wanted to explore my sexuality. My husband enjoyed it and so did the people we were bringing into our lives. Most the stuff we did we did not even have a name for it. It was simply a matter of hey this feels good so lets do it some more. I have never been ashamed of my sexuality nor have a skirted it. I have always been that wife that other men were envious of because I would do the things that they could only read of in Penthouse Forum. When we started getting into the internet side it was because of practical reasons my job was ending there was not a lot of work close to where I lived and the money was an improvement from where we were. I started to become more and more curious about other people and with that came lots of reading. I began to understand that what we were doing for fun was also a big part of other peoples lives or their imagination. I also started to understand how much women do not allow themselves to be sexual creatures. Society has created a scenario that women should always be ashamed and coerced into doing things. I have never been that type of person I am nto going to say that I have always enjoyed everything I have done because somethings seem much better on paper than in person.

For me a lifestyler is someone that does sexual things because they are driven to do them not because they are simply making money off them. I have made good money off of my sexual desires and I am in no way ashamed of that. I have spoken with a lot of men that want something but can never have it. I give them someone who understands that pull of sexuality. I also give them an outlet to explore things that for one reason or another they are unable to do so with their significant other. These men are not always heterosexual either just because a man is homosexual does not mean he has a great communication relationship with the person he is involved with.

A lifestyler understands the struggle of finding and coming to terms with the less socially acceptable parts of sexuality because we have been through those struggles. We are able to communicate on a deeper level because while we may not have tried xyz we have tried things that turned us on while making us unsure of ourselves at the same time. I do this because I enjoy it and I will only do it so long as I enjoy it once the thrill of exploration with strangers is gone then I am gone. In the end my own sense of who I am is far more important my own want for a specific lifestyle will always come first over money.

Expanding My Circles

I tend to get bored in life I get tired of doing the same thing over and over. So for the past couple of months I have been looking into affiliate marketing. I will admit that at this moment I am completely lost. As far as the adult side it seems a little more like a lot confusing and these people that work in this industry give up NO secrets so it is a fight to even learn anything. This all started after Niteflirt decided to change their whole set up. It used to be that if we girls/guys worked hard, put our time in, and worked our customer list we would get decent traffic (people coming to see us). Then Niteflirt started this whole bidding thing along with other changes. So I am no longer in my guys favorites list like I used to me. I am no longer at a place on the list by my hard work. Nope I am BURIED I mean like hundreds of places down from where I used to be. The reason for this is because I refuse to PAY niteflirt to put me in a decent spot. So because of all that I decided to look into advertising venues to get me out there. Yeah not so easy when you work in the adult industry everything is pay to play. I really dont make THAT much money I do okay but not great. From there everyone was screaming affiliate that is where the money is at but I have yet to find that damn Leprechaun. It is fun to learn new stuff and explore new things so I am still hanging in there to see what I can do. 

Narratophilia

This is the fetish of talking or listening to sexual stories, pornographic stories, and dirty talk. I dont know how much of this is a fetish though because most the people I know are into this in one way or form. Now before girls out there go oh no I am not into pornography oh really because the last time I checked all those romance novels describe sex and sexual scenarios. I know I greatly enjoy telling a dirty story or talking dirty. I am not really into porn that much at least not the latest version of porn I enjoy a symbalence of a plot even if it is a weak one. I used to enjoy Penthouse Forum when it was still around and have to say a trashy novel is a great way to relax at night. Now I do not HAVE to be stimulated this way to get off so technically it is not a fetish for me but I enjoy it. What about you what kind of dirty stories do you enjoy? Do you have a favorite place or author that you enjoy? Are you more visual are you more into being shown something? If so are you into a certain kind of porn? 

Are Women Porn Stars Happier than average women?

I was reading an article that posed this question and it really got me to thinking. In some ways I think it is true but it all depends on the portion of a person’s life you are looking at and whether they have a strong support system. I think women in the porn industry are more in tune with their sexuality they have been forced to examine a lot of aspects of their sexuality.  If a porn woman has a partner that is comfortable with her line of work and does not use it to pick fights or put her down then I think that yes she and her partner are a lot more open and honest with each other. I run into a number of men who never tell their partners their fantasies because of all the fallout from that.  I think in some ways working in the adult industry frees women to think and feel how they truly feel about their own sexuality. 

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/women/sex/9714993/Why-female-porn-stars-may-be-happier-than-non-porn-counterparts.html